Welcome to our Podcast
SOMETHING POSITIVE FOR POSITIVE PEOPLE
Since 2017, the SPFPP podcast has been a free resource for people navigating the emotional, relational, and social impacts of a herpes diagnosis. Through candid conversations, guests share what life looks like after testing positive—how they date, disclose, manage shame, and build relationships. You’ll hear experiences from others that reflect your own or reveal new options for moving forward.
What we talk about
Dating with Herpes
From casual sex to long-term commitment, guests share how they communicate their status and build relationships that work for them.Stigma & Identity
How people reclaim their sense of self after diagnosis and rebuild confidence on their own terms.Sexual Health
Tools for navigating safer sex, honest communication, and deeper relational alignment.Alternative Relationship Styles
Non-monogamy, queerness, and connecting beyond traditional relationship norms.Emotional Healing
Stories of grief, growth, and self-acceptance. Often, herpes is the distraction—not the root. These episodes explore the deeper patterns that diagnosis reveals.
If you’re ready to share your experience (anonymously or publicly), please fill out the podcast guest intake form below, and we’ll reach out to interview you!
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I began consuming your podcast like it was water after walking through the desert for days. I was practically catatonic from the blow of my diagnosis, and I didn't know where to turn. I was in those initial stages of grief—somewhere between shock, denial, and anger. I won't say I was suicidal, but I did have the thought that if I died, it wouldn't really matter because my life was practically over anyway. Some months later, I learned about your SPFPP Herpes Stigma Conference in May 2024 and registered for it. I can now say I've survived one of the most difficult periods of my life—and now I'm thriving.
—J.
Bonus Episode 002: Something Positive for Negative People - Being Disclosed to
In SPFPP Bonus Episode 02, dive into an impromptu conversation with Mark as he shares his experience being in a relationship with someone who has herpes. Discover the challenges and triumphs of navigating disclosure, providing a unique perspective for anyone facing similar situations. Tune in for an unfiltered, real-life dialogue on managing relationships and herpes stigma.
Episode 08: Goal So Hard
In episode 8 of Something Positive for Positive People, we discuss the importance of having goals. Human beings are naturally goal-striving organisms, and when we aren’t working towards something, we can fall into anxiety, depression, and other negative emotions. Think of your mind as a bicycle: as long as you keep pedaling, you’re moving forward. Stop pedaling, and you risk falling into depression. Just keep moving forward with purpose and intention.
SPFPP 07: I Was On My Way Out of a Relationship, but Stayed When I Found Out We Had Herpes
In episode 7 of Something Positive for Positive People, we explore the difficult decision of staying in a relationship due to a herpes diagnosis. Our guest shares their experience of feeling obligated to stay with a partner after discovering they both had herpes, highlighting the importance of not settling in a relationship. Despite a diagnosis, you should never compromise your happiness and self-worth.
Episode 06: Herpes Meningitis
In episode 6 of Something Positive for Positive People, we explore the rare but serious condition of herpes meningitis. Our guest shares their personal story, emphasizing the critical importance of disclosing your herpes status to sexual partners. Herpes meningitis is a complication where the herpes simplex virus (HSV) infects the protective membranes covering the brain and spinal cord, leading to inflammation. For more information on herpes meningitis, visit the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) website.
Episode 05: Misdiagnosed Melanie
In episode 5 of Something Positive for Positive People, we hear from Melanie, who was initially misdiagnosed with herpes. She shares her journey through the complexities of not knowing her true status, highlighting the challenges and emotional toll of a potential misdiagnosis. This episode delves into the reasons why the CDC does not recommend routine herpes testing, with misdiagnosis being one significant concern.
Episode 04: Just a Couple of Herpsters
In episode 4 of Something Positive for Positive People, I interview a couple who met through support group events. They share their individual experiences of being diagnosed with herpes and how it impacted their lives before meeting each other. They also discuss how they navigate their relationship and sex life, demonstrating that a positive diagnosis doesn't mean the end of a fulfilling romantic and sexual life.
Episode 03: The Divorce Diet After Effects
In episode 3 of Something Positive for Positive People, our guest shares her experience of getting back into the dating world after a divorce. She explores her sexuality and discovers she is HSV positive, navigating this new chapter with resilience.
Bonus Episode 001: Positive Pansexual Polyamory and Kink
In this bonus episode of Something Positive for Positive People, we discuss positive pansexual polyamory and kink. Our guest bravely shares their experience of being drugged and raped, leading to their HSV diagnosis. The main takeaway here is to focus on treating the trauma. Please take care of yourself as you listen.
Episode 02: Treat the Trauma
In episode 2 of Something Positive for Positive People, our guest shares their experience of being drugged and raped, which led to their positive HSV diagnosis. The main takeaway is to treat the trauma. Please take care of yourself while listening.
Episode 01: Oh You Have Herpes? Well, My Legs Don't Work!
In the very first episode of Something Positive for Positive People, host Courtney Brame interviews Amy about her experiences living with herpes and navigating the world post-diagnosis. Despite the sound quality improving over time, this episode sets the stage for a series dedicated to sharing real-life stories and providing support to those affected by STIs.