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Something positive for positive people
the best herpes Podcast
The SPFPP Podcast: Real Stories. Real Support.
Since 2017, the Something Positive for Positive People podcast has been a free resource for anyone navigating the emotional, relational, and social impacts of a herpes diagnosis.
Through honest conversations, guests share what life really looks like after testing positive—how they date, disclose, manage shame, and build meaningful relationships. You’ll hear experiences that reflect your own or reveal new possibilities for moving forward.
What You’ll Hear:
Dating with Herpes
From casual sex to long-term commitment, guests share how they communicate their status and build relationships that work for them.Stigma & Identity
How people reclaim their sense of self after diagnosis and rebuild confidence on their own terms.Sexual Health Conversations
Tools for navigating safer sex, honest communication, and deeper relational alignment.Alternative Relationship Styles
Insights on non-monogamy, queerness, and connecting beyond traditional relationship norms.Emotional Healing
Stories of grief, growth, and self-acceptance. Often, herpes is the distraction—not the root. These episodes explore the deeper patterns that diagnosis brings to light.
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Episode 18: Successful Disclosure
Tim shares his journey of successful disclosure in this episode, highlighting the emotional process and positive outcome. Despite initial shyness, Tim opens up about meeting an amazing person and how their conversation about herpes went smoothly. His story is a testament to the power of vulnerability and honesty in building strong relationships. Tim's experience provides hope and practical insights for anyone facing the challenge of disclosing their STI status.

Episode 17: It's Been a Rough Year for my Vagina
This episode highlights River, who is living with HSV and had a rough time getting the medical guidance she needed after her diagnosis. Being diagnosed with herpes is one thing, but not having an idea of the 'next steps' can make for a more horrific experience. Fortunately for River, she had a strong support system, her fiancé (I mean boyfriend) was there for her the entire way. (Inside joke about the fiancé part) lol. Gotta listen to get that joke.

Episode 16: Being Open About Herpes and Setting Sexpectaions
In this episode, 28-year-old Luna, an herbalist, blogger, ethical slut, intersectional feminist, and spoonie, shares her journey of being open about herpes and setting "sexpectations." Luna’s bravery inspired me to share my story with those close to me and be open about my condition. We discuss having conversations about STDs with potential partners and how sex is portrayed in media, using Wonder Woman as an example. Tune in to hear her insights and experience.
Episode 15: I Am Runnergirl
In episode 15 of Something Positive for Positive People, Christine Seyk, also known as RunnerGirl, shares her story as an advocate for HSV and HPV. Her motto, "What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas, except herpes, that happens everywhere," emphasizes the importance of openness about sexual health. Christine's story is a testament to overcoming the emotional harm of shaming oneself into loneliness and highlights the impact of self-acceptance and advocacy.

Episode 14: Silent Shame and Self-Punishment
In episode 14 of Something Positive for Positive People, Kimberly M. Knight shares her experience of a brief marriage with a man who had lived with HIV for over eight years, only to discover his diagnosis when he was on his deathbed. Kim's story highlights the dangers of relying on non-medical advice for serious health conditions and emphasizes the importance of seeking guidance from qualified medical professionals. Kim's journey through silent shame and self-punishment offers crucial insights into the emotional struggles faced by those living with or affected by HIV.

Episode 13: Faith Challenged - My Husband is More Than a Virus
In this episode, 49-year-old Soiesette, who is HSV-2 positive, discusses her unwavering commitment to her marriage despite her husband's HIV diagnosis. Learn how they faced the emotional and medical complexities together and the mindset that led to their eventual separation. This heartfelt conversation sheds light on the power of love, faith, and resilience in the face of life's toughest challenges.

Episode 12: Love Out Loud - Life Happens Through Us, Not to Us
In episode 12 of Something Positive for Positive People, 31-year-old Chrissy shares her journey of being diagnosed with cancerous HPV at age 16, following a series of sexual assaults. Growing up in foster care, Chrissy had to redefine her understanding of love. Her story emphasizes the importance of self-love and confidence, which she now promotes through her initiative, Love Out Loud. Viewer discretion is advised due to the sensitive nature of the content discussed.

Episode 11: From Feeling Like Shit to Feeling Like the Shit
In episode 11 of Something Positive for Positive People, 40-year-old Emma from the Bay Area shares her journey of being diagnosed with HSV1 & HPV just 9 months ago. Initially feeling like her diagnosis didn't fit her image, Emma embraced mindfulness and self-awareness to transform her self-perception from feeling like shit to knowing she is the shit. Her story emphasizes the importance of opening up to those close to you and realizing your self-worth in dating and life.

Episode 10: Dating with Herpes is Just Like Dating
In episode 10 of Something Positive for Positive People, 41-year-old entrepreneur Marie shares her 20 years of experience living with HSV (Herpes Simplex Virus). Marie offers insights into how dating with herpes is similar to dating in general, emphasizing that it's often more challenging to find someone who is a true match rather than someone who accepts her condition. She encourages listeners to focus on self-acceptance and to view dating challenges as part of the broader human experience.

Episode 09: Hi I'm Matt and I'm HIV Positive
In episode 9 of Something Positive for Positive People, Matthew celebrates his 10-year milestone of living with HIV. Diagnosed at 17 while seeking treatment for Mono, Matthew shares his journey from the initial shock of his diagnosis to how he has navigated life since. He also introduces The Scarlet Ribbon Project, a storytelling initiative aimed at ending the stigma surrounding HIV by sharing personal stories and experiences.

Bonus Episode 002: Something Positive for Negative People - Being Disclosed to
In SPFPP Bonus Episode 02, dive into an impromptu conversation with Mark as he shares his experience being in a relationship with someone who has herpes. Discover the challenges and triumphs of navigating disclosure, providing a unique perspective for anyone facing similar situations. Tune in for an unfiltered, real-life dialogue on managing relationships and herpes stigma.

Episode 08: Goal So Hard
In episode 8 of Something Positive for Positive People, we discuss the importance of having goals. Human beings are naturally goal-striving organisms, and when we aren’t working towards something, we can fall into anxiety, depression, and other negative emotions. Think of your mind as a bicycle: as long as you keep pedaling, you’re moving forward. Stop pedaling, and you risk falling into depression. Just keep moving forward with purpose and intention.

SPFPP 07: I Was On My Way Out of a Relationship, but Stayed When I Found Out We Had Herpes
In episode 7 of Something Positive for Positive People, we explore the difficult decision of staying in a relationship due to a herpes diagnosis. Our guest shares their experience of feeling obligated to stay with a partner after discovering they both had herpes, highlighting the importance of not settling in a relationship. Despite a diagnosis, you should never compromise your happiness and self-worth.

Episode 06: Herpes Meningitis
In episode 6 of Something Positive for Positive People, we explore the rare but serious condition of herpes meningitis. Our guest shares their personal story, emphasizing the critical importance of disclosing your herpes status to sexual partners. Herpes meningitis is a complication where the herpes simplex virus (HSV) infects the protective membranes covering the brain and spinal cord, leading to inflammation. For more information on herpes meningitis, visit the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) website.

Episode 05: Misdiagnosed Melanie
In episode 5 of Something Positive for Positive People, we hear from Melanie, who was initially misdiagnosed with herpes. She shares her journey through the complexities of not knowing her true status, highlighting the challenges and emotional toll of a potential misdiagnosis. This episode delves into the reasons why the CDC does not recommend routine herpes testing, with misdiagnosis being one significant concern.

Episode 04: Just a Couple of Herpsters
In episode 4 of Something Positive for Positive People, I interview a couple who met through support group events. They share their individual experiences of being diagnosed with herpes and how it impacted their lives before meeting each other. They also discuss how they navigate their relationship and sex life, demonstrating that a positive diagnosis doesn't mean the end of a fulfilling romantic and sexual life.

Episode 03: The Divorce Diet After Effects
In episode 3 of Something Positive for Positive People, our guest shares her experience of getting back into the dating world after a divorce. She explores her sexuality and discovers she is HSV positive, navigating this new chapter with resilience.

Bonus Episode 001: Positive Pansexual Polyamory and Kink
In this bonus episode of Something Positive for Positive People, we discuss positive pansexual polyamory and kink. Our guest bravely shares their experience of being drugged and raped, leading to their HSV diagnosis. The main takeaway here is to focus on treating the trauma. Please take care of yourself as you listen.

Episode 02: Treat the Trauma
In episode 2 of Something Positive for Positive People, our guest shares their experience of being drugged and raped, which led to their positive HSV diagnosis. The main takeaway is to treat the trauma. Please take care of yourself while listening.

Episode 01: Oh You Have Herpes? Well, My Legs Don't Work!
In the very first episode of Something Positive for Positive People, host Courtney Brame interviews Amy about her experiences living with herpes and navigating the world post-diagnosis. Despite the sound quality improving over time, this episode sets the stage for a series dedicated to sharing real-life stories and providing support to those affected by STIs.