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SOMETHING POSITIVE FOR POSITIVE PEOPLE
Since 2017, the SPFPP podcast has been a free resource for people navigating the emotional, relational, and social impacts of a herpes diagnosis. Through candid conversations, guests share what life looks like after testing positive—how they date, disclose, manage shame, and build relationships. You’ll hear experiences from others that reflect your own or reveal new options for moving forward.
What we talk about
Dating with Herpes
From casual sex to long-term commitment, guests share how they communicate their status and build relationships that work for them.Stigma & Identity
How people reclaim their sense of self after diagnosis and rebuild confidence on their own terms.Sexual Health
Tools for navigating safer sex, honest communication, and deeper relational alignment.Alternative Relationship Styles
Non-monogamy, queerness, and connecting beyond traditional relationship norms.Emotional Healing
Stories of grief, growth, and self-acceptance. Often, herpes is the distraction—not the root. These episodes explore the deeper patterns that diagnosis reveals.
If you’re ready to share your experience (anonymously or publicly), please fill out the podcast guest intake form below, and we’ll reach out to interview you!
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I began consuming your podcast like it was water after walking through the desert for days. I was practically catatonic from the blow of my diagnosis, and I didn't know where to turn. I was in those initial stages of grief—somewhere between shock, denial, and anger. I won't say I was suicidal, but I did have the thought that if I died, it wouldn't really matter because my life was practically over anyway. Some months later, I learned about your SPFPP Herpes Stigma Conference in May 2024 and registered for it. I can now say I've survived one of the most difficult periods of my life—and now I'm thriving.
—J.
Episode 26: Alexandra Harbushka's Life With BOTH Herpes
In Episode 26 of SPFPP, Alexandra Harbushka, host of the "Life With Herpes" podcast, shares her inspiring journey of living with HSV-1 and HSV-2. She discusses breaking the stigma, reshaping self-image, and the importance of education and communication. Alexandra's story encourages listeners to embrace their identity beyond herpes and highlights her role as an educator and active voice in the herpes community.
Episode 25 Part 2: Eliminating Assumptions - A New Sex Life
In Episode 25 Part 2 of SPFPP, Dale shares their personal experiences as a non-binary, non-monogamous individual exploring various anatomies and the importance of open-mindedness. Dale discusses the concept of "negotiations" in intimate encounters, emphasizing the value of clear communication to eliminate assumptions and ensure consent. Follow Dale on Instagram @I_have_herpes for more sex education and herpes destigmatization content.
Episode 25 Part 1: Eliminating Assumptions - Better Support
In Episode 25 Part 1 of SPFPP, titled "Eliminating Assumptions - Better Support," Dale shares their experience with contracting HSV after being with a partner who had HSV-1. The conversation delves into whether non-H partners truly understand the risks, and the importance of self-care and education to better support oneself and others. Dale's insights emphasize the need to challenge preconceived notions about herpes and focus on experience-based understanding.
Episode 24: Lose Yourself Inside Yourself to Find Yourself
In Episode 24 of SPFPP, titled "Lose Yourself Inside Yourself to Find Yourself," Lauren shares her journey of being diagnosed with genital herpes while living in Japan. Struggling to get a proper diagnosis and dealing with an abusive relationship, herpes ultimately became a blessing that helped her find her own identity. Lauren's openness, even soon after her diagnosis, highlights the importance of self-care and self-love.
Episode 23: This is NOT Your Stigma
In Episode 23 of SPFPP, "This is NOT Your Stigma," we hear from a local semi-celebrity who shares her journey with herpes. She emphasizes that the stigma associated with herpes belongs to the uninformed and uneducated, not those who have it. The episode discusses the transition from believing societal myths to understanding one's own experience, and the importance of educating others to dismantle the stigma.
Episode 22: Sex Positive Families - Preparation Versus Prevention
In Episode 22 of SPFPP, "Sex Positive Families: Preparation Over Prevention," Melissa, host of the Sex Positive Families podcast, discusses how to have sexual health conversations with youth. Emphasizing preparation over prevention, Melissa shares insights on educating children about consent and sexual health. An important takeaway is how childhood experiences like tickling relate to understanding consent in adulthood.
Episode 21: No Limits
In Episode 21 of SPFPP, "No Limits," 61-year-old Theresa, a retired nurse, shares her journey after being diagnosed with HSV-1 and HSV-2 following her husband's infidelity. She chose to be open about her status, focusing on activities she enjoyed and dating both within and outside the herpes community. Theresa's story emphasizes the importance of not letting the stigma define you and maintaining a positive outlook to find happiness.
Episode 20: Blessed By Herpes
In Episode 20 of SPFPP, "Blessed by Herpes," 26-year-old Katie shares her experience contracting HSV-2 from a sexual assault three years ago. Despite this traumatic event, Katie maintains a 100% successful disclosure rate, including with her current boyfriend. This episode includes a detailed account of her assault and her journey of overcoming the stigma associated with her diagnosis.
Bonus Episode 04 Part 1: Non-Sexually Transmitted Herpes
In Bonus Episode 04 Part 1 of SPFPP, Angela Johnson of ProjectAccept shares her lifelong experience with non-sexually transmitted herpes (cold sores), which she has had since age 10. Now 51, Angela educates others about cold sores whenever she has an outbreak, combating the stigma, especially for those who contracted it non-sexually. Her story inspires listeners to shift their perspective on herpes and become educators and supporters.
Episode 19: Taking Away the Power of Herpes Stigma
Cassie, a 29-year-old St. Louis resident, shares her journey of living with HSV-2 since her diagnosis at 17. Comparing herpes stigma to the fear in "IT," Cassie emphasizes the power of community in overcoming stigma. She discusses her experiences with disclosure, the misconceptions about condoms, and how she decided not to let herpes stop her from having children. Her story highlights the importance of finding a safe space to talk about herpes and reducing the stigma through support and education.
Episode 18: Successful Disclosure
Tim shares his journey of successful disclosure in this episode, highlighting the emotional process and positive outcome. Despite initial shyness, Tim opens up about meeting an amazing person and how their conversation about herpes went smoothly. His story is a testament to the power of vulnerability and honesty in building strong relationships. Tim's experience provides hope and practical insights for anyone facing the challenge of disclosing their STI status.
Episode 17: It's Been a Rough Year for my Vagina
This episode highlights River, who is living with HSV and had a rough time getting the medical guidance she needed after her diagnosis. Being diagnosed with herpes is one thing, but not having an idea of the 'next steps' can make for a more horrific experience. Fortunately for River, she had a strong support system, her fiancé (I mean boyfriend) was there for her the entire way. (Inside joke about the fiancé part) lol. Gotta listen to get that joke.
Episode 16: Being Open About Herpes and Setting Sexpectaions
In this episode, 28-year-old Luna, an herbalist, blogger, ethical slut, intersectional feminist, and spoonie, shares her journey of being open about herpes and setting "sexpectations." Luna’s bravery inspired me to share my story with those close to me and be open about my condition. We discuss having conversations about STDs with potential partners and how sex is portrayed in media, using Wonder Woman as an example. Tune in to hear her insights and experience.
Episode 15: I Am Runnergirl
In episode 15 of Something Positive for Positive People, Christine Seyk, also known as RunnerGirl, shares her story as an advocate for HSV and HPV. Her motto, "What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas, except herpes, that happens everywhere," emphasizes the importance of openness about sexual health. Christine's story is a testament to overcoming the emotional harm of shaming oneself into loneliness and highlights the impact of self-acceptance and advocacy.
Episode 14: Silent Shame and Self-Punishment
In episode 14 of Something Positive for Positive People, Kimberly M. Knight shares her experience of a brief marriage with a man who had lived with HIV for over eight years, only to discover his diagnosis when he was on his deathbed. Kim's story highlights the dangers of relying on non-medical advice for serious health conditions and emphasizes the importance of seeking guidance from qualified medical professionals. Kim's journey through silent shame and self-punishment offers crucial insights into the emotional struggles faced by those living with or affected by HIV.
Episode 13: Faith Challenged - My Husband is More Than a Virus
In this episode, 49-year-old Soiesette, who is HSV-2 positive, discusses her unwavering commitment to her marriage despite her husband's HIV diagnosis. Learn how they faced the emotional and medical complexities together and the mindset that led to their eventual separation. This heartfelt conversation sheds light on the power of love, faith, and resilience in the face of life's toughest challenges.
Episode 12: Love Out Loud - Life Happens Through Us, Not to Us
In episode 12 of Something Positive for Positive People, 31-year-old Chrissy shares her journey of being diagnosed with cancerous HPV at age 16, following a series of sexual assaults. Growing up in foster care, Chrissy had to redefine her understanding of love. Her story emphasizes the importance of self-love and confidence, which she now promotes through her initiative, Love Out Loud. Viewer discretion is advised due to the sensitive nature of the content discussed.
Episode 11: From Feeling Like Shit to Feeling Like the Shit
In episode 11 of Something Positive for Positive People, 40-year-old Emma from the Bay Area shares her journey of being diagnosed with HSV1 & HPV just 9 months ago. Initially feeling like her diagnosis didn't fit her image, Emma embraced mindfulness and self-awareness to transform her self-perception from feeling like shit to knowing she is the shit. Her story emphasizes the importance of opening up to those close to you and realizing your self-worth in dating and life.
Episode 10: Dating with Herpes is Just Like Dating
In episode 10 of Something Positive for Positive People, 41-year-old entrepreneur Marie shares her 20 years of experience living with HSV (Herpes Simplex Virus). Marie offers insights into how dating with herpes is similar to dating in general, emphasizing that it's often more challenging to find someone who is a true match rather than someone who accepts her condition. She encourages listeners to focus on self-acceptance and to view dating challenges as part of the broader human experience.
Episode 09: Hi I'm Matt and I'm HIV Positive
In episode 9 of Something Positive for Positive People, Matthew celebrates his 10-year milestone of living with HIV. Diagnosed at 17 while seeking treatment for Mono, Matthew shares his journey from the initial shock of his diagnosis to how he has navigated life since. He also introduces The Scarlet Ribbon Project, a storytelling initiative aimed at ending the stigma surrounding HIV by sharing personal stories and experiences.