Welcome to our Podcast
SOMETHING POSITIVE FOR POSITIVE PEOPLE
Since 2017, the SPFPP podcast has been a free resource for people navigating the emotional, relational, and social impacts of a herpes diagnosis. Through candid conversations, guests share what life looks like after testing positive—how they date, disclose, manage shame, and build relationships. You’ll hear experiences from others that reflect your own or reveal new options for moving forward.
What we talk about
Dating with Herpes
From casual sex to long-term commitment, guests share how they communicate their status and build relationships that work for them.Stigma & Identity
How people reclaim their sense of self after diagnosis and rebuild confidence on their own terms.Sexual Health
Tools for navigating safer sex, honest communication, and deeper relational alignment.Alternative Relationship Styles
Non-monogamy, queerness, and connecting beyond traditional relationship norms.Emotional Healing
Stories of grief, growth, and self-acceptance. Often, herpes is the distraction—not the root. These episodes explore the deeper patterns that diagnosis reveals.
If you’re ready to share your experience (anonymously or publicly), please fill out the podcast guest intake form below, and we’ll reach out to interview you!
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I began consuming your podcast like it was water after walking through the desert for days. I was practically catatonic from the blow of my diagnosis, and I didn't know where to turn. I was in those initial stages of grief—somewhere between shock, denial, and anger. I won't say I was suicidal, but I did have the thought that if I died, it wouldn't really matter because my life was practically over anyway. Some months later, I learned about your SPFPP Herpes Stigma Conference in May 2024 and registered for it. I can now say I've survived one of the most difficult periods of my life—and now I'm thriving.
—J.
Episode 79: Planned Parenthood - Rising Rates of Syphillis
In Episode 79 of Something Positive for Positive People, we address the rising rates of syphilis in St. Louis, MO, exploring contributing factors such as stigma and political influence on medical treatment availability. Planned Parenthood's extensive services, including cancer screenings, are highlighted. We also discuss the internal condom and share an exclusive announcement about a new service from Planned Parenthood.
Episode 78: Texas Wears Condoms
In Episode 78 of Something Positive for Positive People, we feature Texas Wears Condoms, a San Antonio-based organization offering 25 free condoms per month to Texas residents. Ambie, the Community Outreach Specialist, shares insights about the organization's mission to destigmatize STIs and promote sexual health. Learn how to access these resources and support their efforts through volunteering.
Episode 77: Breaking HIV Stigma - an Inside Job
In Episode 77 of Something Positive for Positive People, Rashard and I discuss breaking HIV stigma within the black community. We highlight the importance of normalizing conversations around HIV/AIDS and the detrimental effects of stigma on health. Listen to our in-depth conversation on race, pride, and prioritizing physical health.
Episode 76: Reflecting on Rejection
Experiencing rejection is always emotionally challenging. It helps to reframe "being rejected" as the other person acknowledging they can't sustain being the kind of person needed for a relationship with us. In Episode 76 of Something Positive for Positive People, we reflect on why rejecting others can seem easier and explore the deeper meanings behind rejection.
Episode 75: Safe Spaces to Get Involved - (Formerly St. Louis Effort for AIDS) Now Vivent Health
The ideation of Something Positive for Positive People had multiple catalysts, including uplifting nonprofits like St. Louis Effort for AIDS, now Vivent Health. This organization offers vital services, including sex education, free condoms, STD testing, and affordable treatment. By creating shame-free environments, we can normalize regular STI testing and empower individuals to make informed decisions about their sexual health.
Episode 74: Sexuallectually Informed Decision Making
A woman who believes in the power of knowing and loving yourself, Erica sees beauty in ordinary things & has an artsy, creative side. In this episode, she shares her chlamydia horror story and the challenge of disclosing an STD to two partners. Learn how Erica's experiences teach us to move forward with informed decision-making and better communication in sexual relationships.
Episode 73: If You Build it They Will Come, or They Won't and That's Okay
In this episode, Heather, founder of the support group HSV in the City, shares her journey of creating a support network in the absence of local resources. Inspired by Positive.Results.ATX, Heather discusses her accidental diagnosis and how it became a positive turning point in her life. Connect with Heather on Instagram @hsvinthecity if you're in the Washington D.C. area seeking support.
Episode 72: Choosing the Better Option
In this episode, we finally interview Rae, who manages support groups for women living with HSV in Austin, Texas, under the Instagram handle @positive_results_community. We discuss the intricacies of managing support groups, the healing power of giving, and the importance of "Choosing the Better Option." Rae's inspiring story and her radiant presence offer hope and guidance for those seeking support.
Episode 71: Vibrantly Mindful Self-Compassion
Our guest shares her journey from self-criticism and internal chaos to finding mindfulness through yoga. By increasing mindfulness and self-awareness, she demonstrates how we can approach life with more self-compassion, lightening our world and improving our self-perception. We discuss the application of self-compassion to a positive diagnosis and life's challenges.
Episode 70: Mental Masturbation and Celibacy
Fellow HANDS member Ana Pelaez shares her journey of continuing a relationship after her partner's HSV disclosure. We delve into mental masturbation as a way we often overthink post-diagnosis and discuss how to use our sexual energy in beneficial ways. This conversation also uncovers some personal issues, providing a deep and insightful discussion on navigating relationships with an HSV diagnosis.
Episode 69: Nice
In this solo episode of SPFPP, I answer listener questions and address my recent unhealthy attachment to rejection. We also highlight Laureen HD's project, "The Art of Loving Your Selfie: Under My Skin," which showcases art from people with STIs reclaiming their body image. The project aims to push the conversation on body positivity to include those with STIs, featuring stories and art pieces from participants willing to share their journey.
Episode 68: When Everybody Knows, No One Can Find Out
In Episode 68 of SPFPP, Aaron Sager shares his journey of overcoming the secrecy and fear surrounding his genital herpes diagnosis. By embracing his truth, Aaron found acceptance and formed a meaningful relationship with his HSV-negative partner. This episode explores how redirecting energy away from hiding and towards positive actions can lead to fulfilling connections and personal growth.
Episode 67: Challenge Your Assumptions With Experience
In Episode 67 of SPFPP, we discuss the complexities of supporting someone who discloses their HSV status. Whether you're the one disclosing or receiving the information, this episode offers valuable insights on handling the situation with empathy and understanding. Learn how to be present, navigate the awkward silences, and challenge the stigma through personal experience.
Episode 66: Everybody Needs a Good Scare
In Episode 66 of SPFPP, Carlee shares her journey of managing her HSV diagnosis and how it has driven her to be open and help others. A good scare often leads to seeking knowledge and empathy. We discuss the importance of fear in fostering understanding and the emotional aftercare necessary post-diagnosis. Tune in to learn how openness and empathy can transform your experience.
Episode 65: Don't Stigmatize Yourself
In Episode 65 of SPFPP, Erin Devost, host of the Herp A Derp Podcast, shares her journey of breaking the herpes stigma. Despite never being in a relationship and feeling hopeless after her HSV diagnosis, Erin openly discusses her experiences to help others navigate their own. Tune in to hear how she overcame self-stigmatization and empowered herself and the community.
Episode 64: Believe Survivors Part 2 - Justice Served
In Part 2 of Episode 64 of SPFPP, we continue with Genie’s powerful story from "Understanding Abuse." This episode concludes with justice being served as Genie uses her HSV-2 diagnosis as a catalyst to leave a harmful situation. We also provide resources for navigating challenging conversations about sex, especially with families and youth. Please be advised, this episode contains a trigger warning.
Episode 64: Believe Survivors Part 1 - Understanding Abuse SEE NOTES
In Part 1 of Episode 64 of SPFPP, we delve into Genie's story of understanding abuse. This episode was prompted by the Surviving R. Kelly documentary, highlighting the importance of addressing abuse. Genie’s experience sheds light on the complexities of abusive relationships. Part 2 will show justice served. We also provide resources for discussing sexual abuse and supporting survivors.
Episode 63: Great Vibes Sync Alike
In Episode 63 of SPFPP, KellyAnne and I share our experiences of deep healing from traumatic events. This episode highlights the importance of processing grief and taking responsibility for our emotions. KellyAnne, a herpes activist and spiritual worker, discusses her journey and the work she does to dismantle stigma. Follow her on Instagram @v_for_vibrant.
Episode 62: Hang Out With Your Darkness
In Episode 62 of SPFPP, Self Love Coach Danielle Bryan shares insights from navigating the darkest time of her life, learning from those experiences, and guiding women to discover their own magic. Danielle's commitment to self-discovery and helping others shines through as she discusses the ongoing lessons she's applied to her coaching.
Bonus Episode 007: Community Cure
In this bonus episode 07 of SPFPP, the focus is on the role of community in the healing process for those diagnosed with herpes. Inspired by the book "Sex At Dawn" by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha, the episode delves into how a sense of community can serve as a powerful tool for healing and support. The conversation, unedited for authenticity, highlights the importance of community in personal healing journeys.