SPFPP Episode 177: Reality Does Not Anchor Assumptions
There's a resistance doctors have against herpes testing that expands beyond North America. Way over in New Zealand we learn that there's also resistance by avoidance and misinformation altogether. J, our guest, shares her experience navigating the medical community's resistance to testing as well as talk about how her boundariliessness in relationships led to her conforming to partners' desires.
Highlights/notes below:
Split with partner and feels like now she’s single and realizes she now HAS to deal with this DURING the pandemic 2 weeks before lockdown happened
Lives in New Zealand
Conversations “In here” vs conversations “Out there”
Being boundariless makes us conform to the boundaries of others or lack thereof
Understand what’s yours and what’s your partners’
Covid conversations parallel STI conversations “Is this person worth getting COVID from?”
Assumptions have no anchor in reality
Stigma makes this diagnosis troubling because we’re not connected to it until we’re connected to it.
Misinformation from credible sources “Just wear condoms” “Don’t have sex during outbreaks”
Well my Doctor said . . .
Dr resistance to testing due to the trauma of a possible positive result
Connecting people to accurate, consistent information is a challenge against all the misinformation
The world’s worst herpes joke at 35 minutes lol. This is awful ya’ll. I mean really bad.
The tickling analogy from Melissa Carnagey of Sex Positive Families how consent violating kids grow to consent violating adults
Sexual Health and Mental health are interconnected. The skeleton of body autonomy and “no” serve as the skeleton of sexual health conversations
