Welcome to our Podcast
SOMETHING POSITIVE FOR POSITIVE PEOPLE
Since 2017, the SPFPP podcast has been a free resource for people navigating the emotional, relational, and social impacts of a herpes diagnosis. Through candid conversations, guests share what life looks like after testing positive—how they date, disclose, manage shame, and build relationships. You’ll hear experiences from others that reflect your own or reveal new options for moving forward.
What we talk about
Dating with Herpes
From casual sex to long-term commitment, guests share how they communicate their status and build relationships that work for them.Stigma & Identity
How people reclaim their sense of self after diagnosis and rebuild confidence on their own terms.Sexual Health
Tools for navigating safer sex, honest communication, and deeper relational alignment.Alternative Relationship Styles
Non-monogamy, queerness, and connecting beyond traditional relationship norms.Emotional Healing
Stories of grief, growth, and self-acceptance. Often, herpes is the distraction—not the root. These episodes explore the deeper patterns that diagnosis reveals.
If you’re ready to share your experience (anonymously or publicly), please fill out the podcast guest intake form below, and we’ll reach out to interview you!
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I began consuming your podcast like it was water after walking through the desert for days. I was practically catatonic from the blow of my diagnosis, and I didn't know where to turn. I was in those initial stages of grief—somewhere between shock, denial, and anger. I won't say I was suicidal, but I did have the thought that if I died, it wouldn't really matter because my life was practically over anyway. Some months later, I learned about your SPFPP Herpes Stigma Conference in May 2024 and registered for it. I can now say I've survived one of the most difficult periods of my life—and now I'm thriving.
—J.
SPFPP 367: Herpes and Nonmonogamy - Integrated Identities for Vulnerability
Tamar Weir joins me to talk about navigating herpes and non-monogamy—two things that demand a level of vulnerability most folks aren’t prepared for. We talk about how she’s managed disclosure, not just once, but across multiple relationships, how stigma hits different depending on where you are in the world, and why it’s so exhausting being the person who always has to start the hard conversations. Tamar is a storyteller, writer, and future sex and intimacy coach who brings a lot of softness and honesty to this episode.
SPFPP 350: Nonmonogamous Conversations Monogamous People need to have - part 2
In SPFPP episode 350, our guest shares how her journey through nonmonogamy challenged her understanding of being single and taught her valuable lessons in communication and intentionality. These experiences reshaped her approach to monogamous relationships, highlighting the power of being upfront, emotionally available, and aligned in values. Join us as we discuss how nonmonogamy can provide tools for healthier monogamous relationships
SPFPP 349: Nonmonogamous conversations monogamous people need to have - Part 1
Join us as we explore the hard conversations monogamous people need to have—often taken for granted in non-monogamous relationships. From the fear of disclosure to the impact of stigma on our self-esteem, this episode is all about asking the tough questions and improving communication in our relationships.
Episode 51: Strange Bedfellows Discussion with Sex Worker Elle Stanger
Elle Stanger, aka @Stripperwriter, co-hosts the Strange Bedfellows Podcast, a space for understanding sex work and the intersection of sex and politics. In this episode, we discuss risk awareness, HPV, oral herpes, and the misconceptions around "being safe" in STI transmission.