Welcome to the SPFPP
Stigma Minimization Podcast
Storytelling, Stigma Healing, and Presence Practice
Since 2017, Something Positive for Positive People has used storytelling to help people feel less alone in the emotional weight of stigma. What began as a herpes support podcast is now a space where anyone navigating identity-based stigma—around mental health, sexuality, race, relationships, or simply being human—can come to feel seen.
If you’ve ever felt disqualified from connection because of how the world responds to who you are, this podcast is for you.
We don’t give quick fixes. We hold space. Every episode is a reminder that your existence is not a problem to solve—but a presence to be witnessed.
What You’ll Hear:
Real Stories: People share what it’s like to live, date, and love while navigating stigma.
Identity and Presence: We explore how presence helps people reclaim their identity beyond what the world expects.
Practical Tools: Guidance for disclosure, emotional regulation, and navigating relationships in ways that honor your truth.
Guest Conversations: We bring in experts and everyday people to talk about healing through herpes, heartbreak, queerness, shame, spirituality, sex, masculinity, and more.
Yoga-Informed Insights: Reflections on how the koshas (layers of being), nervous system regulation, and atomic alignment show up in the healing process.
Why This Podcast Still Supports People with Herpes
Herpes might’ve been what brought you here—but stigma probably isn’t new to you. Whether it’s been around your sexuality, mental health, masculinity, queerness, race, or just feeling like you don’t fit, stigma tends to stack.
This podcast still holds space for people navigating herpes. We’ve got hundreds of episodes about disclosure, dating, and identity. But over time, it became clear—herpes stigma is often the doorway to deeper healing.
If you’re here for herpes support, you’re in the right place. And if you’re starting to realize there’s more beneath the surface, you’re still in the right place.
We’re here to help you live with stigma—but not be defined by it.
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Episode 82: Defining Unscripted Relationships - Use Your Words
In Episode 82 of Something Positive for Positive People, Dr. Stephanie K. Webb explores the intricacies of non-monogamous relationships. She defines cheating in non-monogamy, discusses the difference between love and commitment, and explains the concepts of compulsory monogamy and ethical monogamy. This episode is a valuable resource for anyone curious about or interested in opening their relationship.

Episode 81: Casual Disclosure
In Episode 81 of Something Positive for Positive People, Adrienne Rommel discusses the complexities of casual dating with herpes. She shares her experiences of disclosing and not disclosing her status to partners in Bali, the varied responses she received, and how this impacts her mindset and dating approach. This episode is essential for understanding the nuances of dating with a positive herpes status and making empowered decisions.

Episode 80: It Could Always Be Better
In Episode 80 of Something Positive for Positive People, Johana Dominguez shares insights from her 8-year journey living with genital HSV. Key takeaways include the power of positive self-talk, the importance of supportive relationships, and the value of sharing your status. Johana emphasizes that while things can always be worse, they can also always be better, and encourages listeners to adopt a proactive and positive mindset.

Episode 79: Planned Parenthood - Rising Rates of Syphillis
In Episode 79 of Something Positive for Positive People, we address the rising rates of syphilis in St. Louis, MO, exploring contributing factors such as stigma and political influence on medical treatment availability. Planned Parenthood's extensive services, including cancer screenings, are highlighted. We also discuss the internal condom and share an exclusive announcement about a new service from Planned Parenthood.

Episode 78: Texas Wears Condoms
In Episode 78 of Something Positive for Positive People, we feature Texas Wears Condoms, a San Antonio-based organization offering 25 free condoms per month to Texas residents. Ambie, the Community Outreach Specialist, shares insights about the organization's mission to destigmatize STIs and promote sexual health. Learn how to access these resources and support their efforts through volunteering.

Episode 77: Breaking HIV Stigma - an Inside Job
In Episode 77 of Something Positive for Positive People, Rashard and I discuss breaking HIV stigma within the black community. We highlight the importance of normalizing conversations around HIV/AIDS and the detrimental effects of stigma on health. Listen to our in-depth conversation on race, pride, and prioritizing physical health.

Episode 76: Reflecting on Rejection
Experiencing rejection is always emotionally challenging. It helps to reframe "being rejected" as the other person acknowledging they can't sustain being the kind of person needed for a relationship with us. In Episode 76 of Something Positive for Positive People, we reflect on why rejecting others can seem easier and explore the deeper meanings behind rejection.

Episode 75: Safe Spaces to Get Involved - (Formerly St. Louis Effort for AIDS) Now Vivent Health
The ideation of Something Positive for Positive People had multiple catalysts, including uplifting nonprofits like St. Louis Effort for AIDS, now Vivent Health. This organization offers vital services, including sex education, free condoms, STD testing, and affordable treatment. By creating shame-free environments, we can normalize regular STI testing and empower individuals to make informed decisions about their sexual health.

Episode 74: Sexuallectually Informed Decision Making
A woman who believes in the power of knowing and loving yourself, Erica sees beauty in ordinary things & has an artsy, creative side. In this episode, she shares her chlamydia horror story and the challenge of disclosing an STD to two partners. Learn how Erica's experiences teach us to move forward with informed decision-making and better communication in sexual relationships.

Episode 73: If You Build it They Will Come, or They Won't and That's Okay
In this episode, Heather, founder of the support group HSV in the City, shares her journey of creating a support network in the absence of local resources. Inspired by Positive.Results.ATX, Heather discusses her accidental diagnosis and how it became a positive turning point in her life. Connect with Heather on Instagram @hsvinthecity if you're in the Washington D.C. area seeking support.

Episode 72: Choosing the Better Option
In this episode, we finally interview Rae, who manages support groups for women living with HSV in Austin, Texas, under the Instagram handle @positive_results_community. We discuss the intricacies of managing support groups, the healing power of giving, and the importance of "Choosing the Better Option." Rae's inspiring story and her radiant presence offer hope and guidance for those seeking support.

Episode 71: Vibrantly Mindful Self-Compassion
Our guest shares her journey from self-criticism and internal chaos to finding mindfulness through yoga. By increasing mindfulness and self-awareness, she demonstrates how we can approach life with more self-compassion, lightening our world and improving our self-perception. We discuss the application of self-compassion to a positive diagnosis and life's challenges.

Episode 70: Mental Masturbation and Celibacy
Fellow HANDS member Ana Pelaez shares her journey of continuing a relationship after her partner's HSV disclosure. We delve into mental masturbation as a way we often overthink post-diagnosis and discuss how to use our sexual energy in beneficial ways. This conversation also uncovers some personal issues, providing a deep and insightful discussion on navigating relationships with an HSV diagnosis.

Episode 69: Nice
In this solo episode of SPFPP, I answer listener questions and address my recent unhealthy attachment to rejection. We also highlight Laureen HD's project, "The Art of Loving Your Selfie: Under My Skin," which showcases art from people with STIs reclaiming their body image. The project aims to push the conversation on body positivity to include those with STIs, featuring stories and art pieces from participants willing to share their journey.

Episode 68: When Everybody Knows, No One Can Find Out
In Episode 68 of SPFPP, Aaron Sager shares his journey of overcoming the secrecy and fear surrounding his genital herpes diagnosis. By embracing his truth, Aaron found acceptance and formed a meaningful relationship with his HSV-negative partner. This episode explores how redirecting energy away from hiding and towards positive actions can lead to fulfilling connections and personal growth.

Episode 67: Challenge Your Assumptions With Experience
In Episode 67 of SPFPP, we discuss the complexities of supporting someone who discloses their HSV status. Whether you're the one disclosing or receiving the information, this episode offers valuable insights on handling the situation with empathy and understanding. Learn how to be present, navigate the awkward silences, and challenge the stigma through personal experience.

Episode 66: Everybody Needs a Good Scare
In Episode 66 of SPFPP, Carlee shares her journey of managing her HSV diagnosis and how it has driven her to be open and help others. A good scare often leads to seeking knowledge and empathy. We discuss the importance of fear in fostering understanding and the emotional aftercare necessary post-diagnosis. Tune in to learn how openness and empathy can transform your experience.

Episode 65: Don't Stigmatize Yourself
In Episode 65 of SPFPP, Erin Devost, host of the Herp A Derp Podcast, shares her journey of breaking the herpes stigma. Despite never being in a relationship and feeling hopeless after her HSV diagnosis, Erin openly discusses her experiences to help others navigate their own. Tune in to hear how she overcame self-stigmatization and empowered herself and the community.

Episode 64: Believe Survivors Part 2 - Justice Served
In Part 2 of Episode 64 of SPFPP, we continue with Genie’s powerful story from "Understanding Abuse." This episode concludes with justice being served as Genie uses her HSV-2 diagnosis as a catalyst to leave a harmful situation. We also provide resources for navigating challenging conversations about sex, especially with families and youth. Please be advised, this episode contains a trigger warning.

Episode 64: Believe Survivors Part 1 - Understanding Abuse SEE NOTES
In Part 1 of Episode 64 of SPFPP, we delve into Genie's story of understanding abuse. This episode was prompted by the Surviving R. Kelly documentary, highlighting the importance of addressing abuse. Genie’s experience sheds light on the complexities of abusive relationships. Part 2 will show justice served. We also provide resources for discussing sexual abuse and supporting survivors.