Welcome to the SPFPP Herpes Podcast
Something Positive for Positive People Podcast: Now Live Monthly!
The Something Positive for Positive People podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the stigma associated with STDs/STIs, including herpes, HIV, and HPV. We believe in the power of open conversations, real stories, and expert insights to build a supportive community for everyone affected by these conditions.
Starting in November, the podcast is going live! Join us on the last Tuesday of every month at 8pm Eastern Time for an interactive experience where you can engage with the stories, topics, and experts that matter most to you.
What You'll Find Here
Real Stories: Hear personal experiences from individuals who’ve navigated life with an STD. Their raw, authentic journeys offer valuable lessons and inspiration.
Expert Insights: Learn from healthcare professionals, therapists, and relationship experts who share actionable advice on managing your health, relationships, and mental well-being.
Supportive Community: Connect with others who understand your experiences. Whether listening live or catching the replay, you’ll feel seen, heard, and supported.
Key Topics Covered
Dating with Herpes: Practical tips for disclosing your status and building healthy, honest relationships.
Mental Health: Strategies to cope with the emotional challenges of an STD diagnosis.
Self-Care: Insights on nurturing your physical and emotional health.
Breaking the Stigma: Empowering conversations that challenge societal norms and encourage acceptance.us for the live show on the last Tuesday of every month at
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How to Use Our Search Bar
Looking for specific topics? Use our search bar to find episodes that cover the subjects most relevant to you. Simply type in keywords like "disclosure," "self-care," "mental health," or "relationship advice" to access episodes that offer the insights and support you need.
Join Our Community
Our podcast isn't just about listening—it's about connecting. Join our community of listeners who are navigating similar experiences. Share your stories, ask questions, and find the support you need.
If you would like to be a guest on the podcast to share your dating, relationship, and experience navigating stigma, please fill out the intake form below.

SPFPP 283: Married Celibacy & Government Herpes Funding Goals
Episode 283 of Something Positive for Positive People features Kim, a 51-year-old woman newly diagnosed with herpes, who shares her remarkable story of celibacy during her marriage. The discussion shifts to an open forum about recent public health funding for herpes prevention, exploring potential outcomes and solutions informed by the herpes community. This episode provides insightful reflections on personal journeys and public health strategies.

SPFPP 282: Be the Best Option
Episode 282 of Something Positive for Positive People features Courtney Brame reflecting on his South African safari experience and how observing animal behaviors can inform human dating practices. He explores the concept of being the best option in your environment and discusses how these insights apply to modern relationships. Tune in for a unique perspective on dating, along with updates on upcoming interviews and resources for at-home STI testing.

SPFPP 281: The Crossroads of Sexual Health Care
In Episode 281 of Something Positive for Positive People, Courtney Brame interviews his friend Emily about advocating for sex-positive, identity-validating health care. Emily shares insights from years of advocacy work, and Courtney discusses his business idea to bridge the gap between healthcare providers and patients. This episode explores the importance of creating confidence in sexual health care and integrating post-diagnosis experiences into early STD prevention efforts.

SPFPP 280: Living - 10 Years with Herpes
In Episode 280 of Something Positive for Positive People, Courtney Brame celebrates his 10-year herpes anniversary. Broadcasting from South Africa, he shares his origin story, current perspective, and the importance of living fully despite a herpes diagnosis. Courtney also discusses useful resources and reflects on his journey with analogies like Venom/Eddie Brock and Tony Stark/Iron Man. Tune in for a blend of personal insights and practical advice.

SPFPP 279: Shameless Care
In Episode 279 of Something Positive for Positive People, Courtney Brame interviews Robert Johnson, founder of Shameless Care. They discuss how Robert's experience with an STI led him to create a company offering judgment-free healthcare and at-home STI testing kits tailored for the consensual non-monogamy community. Learn about their services, including medication for erectile dysfunction, and how Shameless Care aims to serve and support its community. Use code ‘SPFPP’ for purchases at www.shamelesscare.com/spfpp.

SPFPP 278: Unorthodox Inspiration
In Episode 278 of Something Positive for Positive People, Courtney Brame delves into an unorthodox and preachy style of inspiration. Sharing a personal and introspective take on self-reflection, Courtney provides motivational insights that resonate deeply. Whether you're seeking a boost of encouragement or a moment of self-examination, this episode offers a unique perspective that may just inspire you. Tune in and let the message flow through you!

SPFPP 277: Something Positive for Men Part 1
In Episode 277 of Something Positive for Positive People, Courtney Brame reflects on his journey of vulnerability and personal growth. Despite being praised for his openness, Courtney reveals the mask he has hidden behind and the realization that true connection comes from sharing his genuine experiences. This episode is a heartfelt invitation to men, encouraging them to step into a space that desperately needs masculine presence and authenticity. Join Courtney as he navigates the complexities of vulnerability and the importance of male voices in the SPFPP community.

SPFPP 276: Sex Education is Intersectional Health Education
In Episode 276 of Something Positive for Positive People, Courtney Brame and Justine Fonte dive into the importance of intersectional health education. Despite attempting to steer away from herpes, the conversation naturally touches on its relevance within broader health topics. Justine, a math teacher turned sex educator, shares how students' learning is influenced by their understanding of their bodies and relationships. This episode sheds light on the misconceptions surrounding sex education and emphasizes the need for medically accurate information to empower youth. Listen to this insightful discussion to understand why sex education is vital for creating healthy, informed communities.

SPFPP 275: Trust Yourself to Trust Others
In Episode 275 of Something Positive for Positive People, our guest, a 34-year-old Puerto Rican woman, opens up about how her herpes diagnosis became a powerful tool for building deeper intimacy in her relationships. Initially shy, she reveals how sharing her status with supportive friends validated her self-worth and reinforced her self-trust. This episode, paired with insights from Episode 274, highlights the impact of cultural upbringing on responses to a herpes diagnosis and the importance of trusting oneself to trust others. Listen to gain valuable perspectives on navigating relationships and intimacy through vulnerability and self-trust.

SPFPP 274: Disclosing is an Invitation for Intimacy
Invitations for intimacy require vulnerability

SPFPP 273: Stop the Bleeding First
In Episode 273 of Something Positive for Positive People, Nina returns to dive into the unexpected connection between herpes disclosure and intimacy. While originally planning to discuss grief, the conversation evolves into an enlightening discussion on how initiating a sexual health conversation is an attempt to foster closeness and combat commitment phobia. This episode also redefines the term "relationship," highlighting how vulnerability can strengthen emotional connections. Nina and I explore the ways we relate to others, the impact of hookup culture on intimacy, and the transformative power of honest communication in relationships. Listen now to gain a fresh perspective on intimacy and disclosure.

SPFPP 272: What to do When You're Re-triggered
In Episode 272 of Something Positive for Positive People, I delve into handling re-triggered emotions by sharing my personal experiences with recent disappointments and relationship transitions. Sponsored by The Love in Action Fund, this episode focuses on identifying the emotion linked to your triggered situation, recognizing the most recent and first instances of feeling that emotion, and understanding the pattern these experiences form. I discuss how to redirect, rather than break, these patterns using insights from my own mommy and daddy issues. Tune in for practical advice on managing re-triggered emotions and improving your emotional responses in relationships.

SPFPP 271: Take The Headphones Out
In Episode 271 of Something Positive for Positive People, Joyce, a 64-year-old Black Lesbian from NYC, shares her invaluable wisdom on navigating life with an HSV diagnosis. Diagnosed in 2014, she offers a unique perspective on dating and relationships, emphasizing the importance of looking beyond appearances and prioritizing personal needs. Joyce discusses the pitfalls of suppressing needs for the sake of others, the impact on relationships, and her approach to meeting people the old-fashioned way—through genuine conversation. Inspired by her advice, I take on the challenge of working out without headphones and engaging in real conversations. Join us for a heartfelt and insightful episode filled with life lessons and practical advice.

SPFPP 270: Deceptive Disclosure
In Episode 270 of Something Positive for Positive People, we hear from Karan, a 23-year-old male who offers a profound and unique perspective on relationships and self-reflection. From the other side of the world, Karan discusses how his second sexual partner’s approach to her body mirrored his internal self-view. His story involves a deceptive herpes disclosure, revealing the complexities of communication and trust in intimate relationships. This episode delves into deeper topics, such as self-relationship and cultural differences, offering valuable insights beyond the usual narratives. Join us for an enriching conversation that transcends the superficial aspects of living with herpes.

SPFPP 269: Value Awareness
In Episode 269 of Something Positive for Positive People, we dive into the notion of being a "high value man" and the dangers of chasing unattainable standards. I share personal insights about my finances, moments of questioning my value, and ultimately discovering where my worth truly lies. This episode offers a raw and honest look at personal value awareness, with a touch of humor from comedian Jason Banks. Join us for an enlightening discussion on recognizing and embracing your unique value.

SPFPP 268: I'm Finally Settling Down
In Episode 268 of Something Positive for Positive People, I vent and break through my podcaster's writer's block. This isn't a herpes-focused episode, but rather a candid discussion on avoiding topics of racism, the dehumanization of men, the "forward" response, and challenging our triggers with the wisdom of our elders. Join me as I share my true honesty and vulnerability with the SPFPP audience for the first time.

Spfpp 267 Home is Where the Work is to be Done
In Episode 267 of Something Positive for Positive People, I reflect on my struggle with fitting in due to social media's influence. By taking a break from the digital world, I reconnected with my true self and began to question where I belong and how to find my community. Join me as I share my journey of realizing that belonging is about creating space where genuine connections and meaningful work can thrive.

SPFPP 266: Black Male Leadership
In Episode 266 of Something Positive for Positive People, Anthony and I, two Black men close in age, engage in a candid conversation about challenging the status quo. We dive into how sex positivity impacts the creation of strong Black families, the controversy around having preferences, and the lack of accountability within certain communities. No language was softened for comfort—this dialogue is raw and real. Follow Anthony on Instagram @iamcontroversy for more insights.

SPFPP 265 Freedom in the Questioning of the Unknown
In Episode 265 of Something Positive for Positive People, we reconnect with Lauren as she shares her journey of surviving abuse in a marriage. This episode delves into themes of loyalty, religious ties, and the struggle of staying in relationships past their expiration date. Despite some background noise, Lauren's powerful story is sure to resonate with those who've tried to fix others or stayed loyal for too long. Join us for this honest and raw conversation.

SPFPP 264: From Victim to Volunteer
Join Sarah (@Bloodswanmusic) in Episode 264 of Something Positive for Positive People as she shares her herpes journey and explores deeper themes like co-dependency vs interdependence, love addiction, disclosing celibacy, and the unique challenges of dating men vs women as a bisexual woman. This episode highlights how various life challenges can feel less significant compared to an HSV diagnosis. Tune in for a live podcast recording available on Instagram and gain valuable insights into managing love and relationships beyond the stigma of herpes.