SPFPP 282: Be the Best Option
My trip to South Africa really gave me some useful insights to incorporate into my day to day as all travels should. During my trip, I went on a Safari. It was really something to see lions, ostrich, rhinos, elephants, buffalo, giraffes, and zebras and antelope out in something like their own natural habitat. Our tour guide for the Safari would stop the vehicle and point out some of the natural laws of the species when it came to how they coexist. He spoke about how the female just is there and when she’s ready to mate, she’ll only mate with the best option.
She ain’t gotta go on no healing journey, have a cleanse, get her ish together, her finances right, her body right, she just decides she’s ready to mate. What’s said here about mating can be applied to dating. It’s “I’m ready, which one of ya’ll gone come get this (insert cat emoji)”. And then the hunger games start and the most competitive suitors fight it out. As humans, our fight doesn’t look like literally killing one another. The male species is held to a different standard in the human sector. It’s also about environment. The most fit in an environment, the most respected (or feared) in an environment, the most comfortable/safe territory guarded in an environment is who the female chooses.
In the animal kingdom, the female chooses what male gets to mate. She knows this so there is no added pressure on her to become fit, secure her own territory, be respected or feared by her peers. The males have to get their ish together and if they’re born with disadvantages, they do have to work harder to secure mating. The harder a female works to mate, the less the male will work to secure a mate. Now this is transitioning over into mating in 2023 which you’ll have to listen to the podcast for more details on.
This and the next few episodes will be about my own dating experiences if you care for that. I’m in the process of getting interviews with health care providers for SPFPP.
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