Welcome to the SPFPP Herpes Podcast

Season 1: Herpes Stigma, Disclosure, and Emotional Support

Welcome to Season 1 of the Something Positive for Positive People (SPFPP) podcast. This season began with one mission: to support people navigating life after a herpes diagnosis through real, stigma-free conversations.

Whether you’re newly diagnosed or years into your journey, this archive exists to remind you—you’re not alone, and your story matters.

What You’ll Hear in Season 1:

  • Personal Stories: Guests share their experiences navigating herpes, dating, disclosure, and identity.

  • Herpes Disclosure Tips: Learn how to talk about your status with confidence and compassion.

  • Mental Health & Self-Worth: Explore how a diagnosis impacts your emotional health—and how to rebuild it.

  • Stigma-Free Language: Hear conversations that model compassionate, affirming ways to talk about STIs.

  • Expert Insights: Professionals in sexual health and mental health join the conversation to provide context and support.

Topics Covered:

  • First outbreak and diagnosis stories

  • Navigating relationships and dating with herpes

  • Finding identity beyond the stigma

  • Supporting others with STIs

  • Yoga therapy, emotional wellness, and herpes

  • Building community and breaking isolation

This season reflects years of lived experience, listener conversations, and lessons gathered from hundreds of interviews and peer support calls. The goal: to reduce the emotional weight of stigma, one conversation at a time.

Why This Archive Still Matters

While SPFPP is now expanding into broader conversations about emotional wellness and minimizing all forms of stigma, Season 1 will always be the foundation. These stories continue to support thousands of people every year seeking reassurance, healing, and connection.

If you’re here for herpes-specific support, you’re in the right place.

Want more tools and support?
Explore our Herpes Support Call and
Yoga Therapy pages for more resources to help you navigate stigma and emotional wellness.


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Looking for specific topics? Use our search bar to find episodes that cover the subjects most relevant to you. Simply type in keywords like "disclosure," "self-care," "mental health," or "relationship advice" to access episodes that offer the insights and support you need.

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SPFPP 288: Healing Herpes with The Alkaline Traveler
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

SPFPP 288: Healing Herpes with The Alkaline Traveler

In this enlightening episode, The Alkaline Traveler shares her journey and expertise in using holistic methods to manage herpes. From dietary changes to lifestyle adjustments, learn how you can embrace a holistic approach to health and potentially reduce herpes symptoms naturally. Whether you're newly diagnosed or looking for alternative therapies, this episode offers valuable knowledge and inspiration for anyone on the path to better health.

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SPFPP 287: I Lost My Labia
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SPFPP 287: I Lost My Labia

Jaclyn's powerful story on "I Lost My Labia" highlights the intersection of sexual health and mental well-being through her battle with Lichen Sclerosus. This episode sheds light on the struggles and triumphs in seeking treatment, the impact on intimate relationships, and the broader implications for those dealing with similar health issues. Gain valuable insights into managing sexual health conditions, enhancing communication with partners, and advocating for personal health with confidence. Join us for an eye-opening discussion that extends beyond herpes stigma to embrace broader sexual health challenges.

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SPFPP 286: Use What You Got to Get What You Want
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SPFPP 286: Use What You Got to Get What You Want

In "Use What You Got to Get What You Want," Courtney Brame tackles the sensitive issue of herpes disclosure, emphasizing how integrity and vulnerability are crucial for fostering genuine intimacy. This episode offers guidance on embracing vulnerability in conversations about herpes, illustrating how honesty enhances emotional availability and deepens connections. Join us as we discuss the long-term benefits of transparent communication and how to practice vulnerability effectively.

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SPFPP 285: Some Positive Dating Experience
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SPFPP 285: Some Positive Dating Experience

In "Some Positive Dating Experience," Courtney Brame shares a candid look at the challenges and successes in negotiating positive relationships, especially when dealing with herpes disclosure. This episode veers into a discussion about the nuances of effective communication, both in personal relationships and larger organizational efforts to address herpes stigma. Tune in for a mix of personal anecdotes and professional insights on creating meaningful connections.

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SPFPP 284: Managing Expectations
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SPFPP 284: Managing Expectations

Episode 284 of Something Positive for Positive People dives into the nuances of managing expectations and recognizing personal value. Courtney discusses the importance of distinguishing between identifying your value and enhancing it to align with personal integrity. This episode offers insightful reflections on self-worth and how to effectively market your unique attributes in various aspects of life, especially in forming and maintaining relationships

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SPFPP 283: Married Celibacy & Government Herpes Funding Goals
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SPFPP 283: Married Celibacy & Government Herpes Funding Goals

Episode 283 of Something Positive for Positive People features Kim, a 51-year-old woman newly diagnosed with herpes, who shares her remarkable story of celibacy during her marriage. The discussion shifts to an open forum about recent public health funding for herpes prevention, exploring potential outcomes and solutions informed by the herpes community. This episode provides insightful reflections on personal journeys and public health strategies.

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SPFPP 282: Be the Best Option
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SPFPP 282: Be the Best Option

Episode 282 of Something Positive for Positive People features Courtney Brame reflecting on his South African safari experience and how observing animal behaviors can inform human dating practices. He explores the concept of being the best option in your environment and discusses how these insights apply to modern relationships. Tune in for a unique perspective on dating, along with updates on upcoming interviews and resources for at-home STI testing.

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SPFPP 281: The Crossroads of Sexual Health Care
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SPFPP 281: The Crossroads of Sexual Health Care

In Episode 281 of Something Positive for Positive People, Courtney Brame interviews his friend Emily about advocating for sex-positive, identity-validating health care. Emily shares insights from years of advocacy work, and Courtney discusses his business idea to bridge the gap between healthcare providers and patients. This episode explores the importance of creating confidence in sexual health care and integrating post-diagnosis experiences into early STD prevention efforts.

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SPFPP 280: Living - 10 Years with Herpes
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SPFPP 280: Living - 10 Years with Herpes

In Episode 280 of Something Positive for Positive People, Courtney Brame celebrates his 10-year herpes anniversary. Broadcasting from South Africa, he shares his origin story, current perspective, and the importance of living fully despite a herpes diagnosis. Courtney also discusses useful resources and reflects on his journey with analogies like Venom/Eddie Brock and Tony Stark/Iron Man. Tune in for a blend of personal insights and practical advice.

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SPFPP 279: Shameless Care
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SPFPP 279: Shameless Care

In Episode 279 of Something Positive for Positive People, Courtney Brame interviews Robert Johnson, founder of Shameless Care. They discuss how Robert's experience with an STI led him to create a company offering judgment-free healthcare and at-home STI testing kits tailored for the consensual non-monogamy community. Learn about their services, including medication for erectile dysfunction, and how Shameless Care aims to serve and support its community. Use code ‘SPFPP’ for purchases at www.shamelesscare.com/spfpp.

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SPFPP 278: Unorthodox Inspiration
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SPFPP 278: Unorthodox Inspiration

In Episode 278 of Something Positive for Positive People, Courtney Brame delves into an unorthodox and preachy style of inspiration. Sharing a personal and introspective take on self-reflection, Courtney provides motivational insights that resonate deeply. Whether you're seeking a boost of encouragement or a moment of self-examination, this episode offers a unique perspective that may just inspire you. Tune in and let the message flow through you!

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SPFPP 277: Something Positive for Men Part 1
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SPFPP 277: Something Positive for Men Part 1

In Episode 277 of Something Positive for Positive People, Courtney Brame reflects on his journey of vulnerability and personal growth. Despite being praised for his openness, Courtney reveals the mask he has hidden behind and the realization that true connection comes from sharing his genuine experiences. This episode is a heartfelt invitation to men, encouraging them to step into a space that desperately needs masculine presence and authenticity. Join Courtney as he navigates the complexities of vulnerability and the importance of male voices in the SPFPP community.

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SPFPP 276: Sex Education is Intersectional Health Education
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SPFPP 276: Sex Education is Intersectional Health Education

In Episode 276 of Something Positive for Positive People, Courtney Brame and Justine Fonte dive into the importance of intersectional health education. Despite attempting to steer away from herpes, the conversation naturally touches on its relevance within broader health topics. Justine, a math teacher turned sex educator, shares how students' learning is influenced by their understanding of their bodies and relationships. This episode sheds light on the misconceptions surrounding sex education and emphasizes the need for medically accurate information to empower youth. Listen to this insightful discussion to understand why sex education is vital for creating healthy, informed communities.

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SPFPP 275: Trust Yourself to Trust Others
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SPFPP 275: Trust Yourself to Trust Others

In Episode 275 of Something Positive for Positive People, our guest, a 34-year-old Puerto Rican woman, opens up about how her herpes diagnosis became a powerful tool for building deeper intimacy in her relationships. Initially shy, she reveals how sharing her status with supportive friends validated her self-worth and reinforced her self-trust. This episode, paired with insights from Episode 274, highlights the impact of cultural upbringing on responses to a herpes diagnosis and the importance of trusting oneself to trust others. Listen to gain valuable perspectives on navigating relationships and intimacy through vulnerability and self-trust.

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SPFPP 273: Stop the Bleeding First
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SPFPP 273: Stop the Bleeding First

In Episode 273 of Something Positive for Positive People, Nina returns to dive into the unexpected connection between herpes disclosure and intimacy. While originally planning to discuss grief, the conversation evolves into an enlightening discussion on how initiating a sexual health conversation is an attempt to foster closeness and combat commitment phobia. This episode also redefines the term "relationship," highlighting how vulnerability can strengthen emotional connections. Nina and I explore the ways we relate to others, the impact of hookup culture on intimacy, and the transformative power of honest communication in relationships. Listen now to gain a fresh perspective on intimacy and disclosure.

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SPFPP 272: What to do When You're Re-triggered
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SPFPP 272: What to do When You're Re-triggered

In Episode 272 of Something Positive for Positive People, I delve into handling re-triggered emotions by sharing my personal experiences with recent disappointments and relationship transitions. Sponsored by The Love in Action Fund, this episode focuses on identifying the emotion linked to your triggered situation, recognizing the most recent and first instances of feeling that emotion, and understanding the pattern these experiences form. I discuss how to redirect, rather than break, these patterns using insights from my own mommy and daddy issues. Tune in for practical advice on managing re-triggered emotions and improving your emotional responses in relationships.

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SPFPP 271: Take The Headphones Out
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SPFPP 271: Take The Headphones Out

In Episode 271 of Something Positive for Positive People, Joyce, a 64-year-old Black Lesbian from NYC, shares her invaluable wisdom on navigating life with an HSV diagnosis. Diagnosed in 2014, she offers a unique perspective on dating and relationships, emphasizing the importance of looking beyond appearances and prioritizing personal needs. Joyce discusses the pitfalls of suppressing needs for the sake of others, the impact on relationships, and her approach to meeting people the old-fashioned way—through genuine conversation. Inspired by her advice, I take on the challenge of working out without headphones and engaging in real conversations. Join us for a heartfelt and insightful episode filled with life lessons and practical advice.

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SPFPP 270: Deceptive Disclosure
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SPFPP 270: Deceptive Disclosure

In Episode 270 of Something Positive for Positive People, we hear from Karan, a 23-year-old male who offers a profound and unique perspective on relationships and self-reflection. From the other side of the world, Karan discusses how his second sexual partner’s approach to her body mirrored his internal self-view. His story involves a deceptive herpes disclosure, revealing the complexities of communication and trust in intimate relationships. This episode delves into deeper topics, such as self-relationship and cultural differences, offering valuable insights beyond the usual narratives. Join us for an enriching conversation that transcends the superficial aspects of living with herpes.

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SPFPP 269: Value Awareness
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SPFPP 269: Value Awareness

In Episode 269 of Something Positive for Positive People, we dive into the notion of being a "high value man" and the dangers of chasing unattainable standards. I share personal insights about my finances, moments of questioning my value, and ultimately discovering where my worth truly lies. This episode offers a raw and honest look at personal value awareness, with a touch of humor from comedian Jason Banks. Join us for an enlightening discussion on recognizing and embracing your unique value.

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