Welcome to our Podcast
SOMETHING POSITIVE FOR POSITIVE PEOPLE
Since 2017, the SPFPP podcast has been a free resource for people navigating the emotional, relational, and social impacts of a herpes diagnosis. Through candid conversations, guests share what life looks like after testing positive—how they date, disclose, manage shame, and build relationships. You’ll hear experiences from others that reflect your own or reveal new options for moving forward.
What we talk about
Dating with Herpes
From casual sex to long-term commitment, guests share how they communicate their status and build relationships that work for them.Stigma & Identity
How people reclaim their sense of self after diagnosis and rebuild confidence on their own terms.Sexual Health
Tools for navigating safer sex, honest communication, and deeper relational alignment.Alternative Relationship Styles
Non-monogamy, queerness, and connecting beyond traditional relationship norms.Emotional Healing
Stories of grief, growth, and self-acceptance. Often, herpes is the distraction—not the root. These episodes explore the deeper patterns that diagnosis reveals.
If you’re ready to share your experience (anonymously or publicly), please fill out the podcast guest intake form below, and we’ll reach out to interview you!
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I began consuming your podcast like it was water after walking through the desert for days. I was practically catatonic from the blow of my diagnosis, and I didn't know where to turn. I was in those initial stages of grief—somewhere between shock, denial, and anger. I won't say I was suicidal, but I did have the thought that if I died, it wouldn't really matter because my life was practically over anyway. Some months later, I learned about your SPFPP Herpes Stigma Conference in May 2024 and registered for it. I can now say I've survived one of the most difficult periods of my life—and now I'm thriving.
—J.
SPFPP 353: Something Pleasure Positive for Vanilla People
Sol opens up about how growing up in a religious household and navigating herpes stigma led her to vanilla, one-sided sex experiences. This episode uncovers how stepping into the sex-positive community transformed her relationship with consent and pleasure, and how these lessons are relevant for anyone curious about exploring new ways to connect sexually.
SPFPP 324: Overcoming Herpes Stigma in the Black Community
In "Overcoming Herpes Stigma in the Black Community," Belize Spivey sheds light on the unique challenges faced within the community. This episode delves into the roots of stigma, its impact on relationships, and how education and communication can dismantle misconceptions, offering a powerful narrative of empowerment and change. Join us to gain a deeper understanding and to support the journey toward a stigma-free dialogue in the Black community.
SPFPP Episode 190: Identity Validation is Suicide Prevention - Stigma in Blackness
In Episode 190 of the SPFPP Podcast, we delve into the intersection of overlapping identities and their impact on trauma and stigma, with a focus on the Black and LGBTQIA+ communities. Leigh, an intersex black trans woman and primary health care provider, shares her experiences since 2019, offering a unique perspective on the challenges faced by those with multiple marginalized identities. Learn how identity validation is vital for suicide prevention and mental health support.
SPFPP Episode 171: Black Minds Matter Part 1
In Part 1 of this two-part SPFPP episode, 27-year-old Bliss, a Black woman, shares her experience being diagnosed with trichomoniasis and herpes simplex virus type 1 while in a relationship. She initially thought she only had oral herpes due to unclear language from her healthcare provider. We also touch on her mental health struggles, including battling depression and suicidal ideation.
Episode 49: Overcoming - Herpes Support Group for Women
This episode features a recording of an online Black women's Herpes support group led by Belize Spivey, who inspires women to overcome life's obstacles, including living with herpes. The group discusses topics from Belize's book, "Overcoming What Can't be Cured: Living Beyond Herpes."