Welcome to the SPFPP Herpes Podcast

Something Positive for Positive People Podcast: Now Live Monthly!

The Something Positive for Positive People podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the stigma associated with STDs/STIs, including herpes, HIV, and HPV. We believe in the power of open conversations, real stories, and expert insights to build a supportive community for everyone affected by these conditions.

Starting in November, the podcast is going live! Join us on the last Tuesday of every month at 8pm Eastern Time for an interactive experience where you can engage with the stories, topics, and experts that matter most to you.

What You'll Find Here

  • Real Stories: Hear personal experiences from individuals who’ve navigated life with an STD. Their raw, authentic journeys offer valuable lessons and inspiration.

  • Expert Insights: Learn from healthcare professionals, therapists, and relationship experts who share actionable advice on managing your health, relationships, and mental well-being.

  • Supportive Community: Connect with others who understand your experiences. Whether listening live or catching the replay, you’ll feel seen, heard, and supported.

Key Topics Covered

  • Dating with Herpes: Practical tips for disclosing your status and building healthy, honest relationships.

  • Mental Health: Strategies to cope with the emotional challenges of an STD diagnosis.

  • Self-Care: Insights on nurturing your physical and emotional health.

  • Breaking the Stigma: Empowering conversations that challenge societal norms and encourage acceptance.us for the live show on the last Tuesday of every month at

Be part of the conversation that’s changing how we talk about STDs. Don’t miss your chance to connect, learn, and grow with the SPFPP community. Join our monthly newsletter and check the events page to learn how to attend live!


How to Use Our Search Bar

Looking for specific topics? Use our search bar to find episodes that cover the subjects most relevant to you. Simply type in keywords like "disclosure," "self-care," "mental health," or "relationship advice" to access episodes that offer the insights and support you need.

Join Our Community

Our podcast isn't just about listening—it's about connecting. Join our community of listeners who are navigating similar experiences. Share your stories, ask questions, and find the support you need.


If you would like to be a guest on the podcast to share your dating, relationship, and experience navigating stigma, please fill out the intake form below.

SPFPP 203: Identity Care is Checking In VS Checking Out
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

SPFPP 203: Identity Care is Checking In VS Checking Out

In Episode 203 of the SPFPP Podcast, Nina, a sex worker and therapist, joins us to discuss identity care, chronic pain, and challenging gender binaries. We start with a discussion on daily antivirals but quickly dive into broader conversations about gender and existence. Tune in to hear Nina's insights and share your thoughts on Instagram @CourtneyBrame or leave a review.

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SPFPP 202: Avoiding Our Triggers and Identity Invalidation
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

SPFPP 202: Avoiding Our Triggers and Identity Invalidation

In Episode 202 of the SPFPP Podcast, we delve into how our triggers guide us toward healing and the impact of identity invalidation. By leaning into our intense emotions and recognizing patterns, we can avoid unconscious expressions of suffering. Tune in to learn how to navigate your emotional moments and embrace healing.

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SPFPP 201: Sexual Health is Mental Health - Identity Validation as Self Care
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

SPFPP 201: Sexual Health is Mental Health - Identity Validation as Self Care

In Episode 201 of the SPFPP Podcast, we explore the connection between sexual health and mental health, focusing on identity validation as a form of self-care. After a hiatus, I discuss how prioritizing money over being led to burnout and the importance of validating our identities. Tune in to hear about the future of SPFPP and the wisdom of Audre Lorde: “Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.”

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SPFPP Episode 200: How to End Herpes Stigma
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

SPFPP Episode 200: How to End Herpes Stigma

In Episode 200 of the SPFPP Podcast, we explore how to end herpes stigma by reclaiming the power it takes from us. This episode emphasizes practical applications for internal transformation and empowerment. It's not goodbye, it's a good transition. Come, get what you need, then leave and move on with confidence.

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SPFPP Episode 199: Integrating Mental Health Resources and STD Prevention Efforts
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

SPFPP Episode 199: Integrating Mental Health Resources and STD Prevention Efforts

In Episode 199 of the SPFPP Podcast, we explore the integration of mental health resources with STD prevention efforts. Presented at the 2021 State of Michigan HIV and STI conference, this episode highlights the need for transparency and inclusivity in prevention efforts. Tune in to hear how SPFPP is advocating for change and creating supportive spaces for those impacted by STIs.

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SPFPP Episode 198: Therapy Exit Interviews 6 - The Luxury of Healing
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

SPFPP Episode 198: Therapy Exit Interviews 6 - The Luxury of Healing

In Episode 198 of the SPFPP Podcast, Malia shares her journey through 12 group therapy sessions funded by our generous donors. This episode highlights how healing, often perceived as a luxury, is a vital necessity. Learn how SPFPP is expanding to provide support and make healing more accessible for those positive and optimistic about their journey.

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SPFPP Episode 197: "It's Probably Herpes" - Healthcare Provider
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

SPFPP Episode 197: "It's Probably Herpes" - Healthcare Provider

In Episode 197 of the SPFPP Podcast, Kelsey discusses her diagnosis of genital HSV1 in July 2020 and the importance of self-advocacy in healthcare. Her experience with misdiagnosed outbreaks underscores the impact of how diagnoses are delivered and their influence on disclosure. Tune in to hear Kelsey's inspiring journey of fighting for her health.

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SPFPP Episode 196: Therapy Exit Interviews 5 - Giving it a Second Shot
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

SPFPP Episode 196: Therapy Exit Interviews 5 - Giving it a Second Shot

In Episode 196 of the SPFPP Podcast, Hannah opens up about her experience with HSV and how therapy has helped her re-enter the dating scene. After four years with HSV and two years without dating, Hannah found the support she needed to put herself back out there. Tune in to hear how therapy provided the tools to overcome the emotional impact of her diagnosis and embrace new relationships.

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Bonus Episode 04 Part 2: Community Group Etiquette
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

Bonus Episode 04 Part 2: Community Group Etiquette

In Bonus Episode 04 Part 2 of the SPFPP Podcast, we dive into the etiquette of secret social media communities for individuals with HPV/HSV. We explore the pros and cons of these groups and their role in combating stigma. A key highlight is the strategy for disclosing your status by asserting your value: “I have herpes and I don’t know if you’re worth the risk…” Tune in to understand how to navigate these communities and set a positive tone for self-disclosure. Follow me on Instagram @CourtneyBrame.

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Bonus Episode 003: 2beatHIV.org - Crowd Sourcing for an HIV Cure
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

Bonus Episode 003: 2beatHIV.org - Crowd Sourcing for an HIV Cure

In Bonus Episode 03 of the SPFPP Podcast, Dr. Allison Mathews from 2BeatHIV, a research project at UNC’s Institute for Global Health and Infectious Disease, discusses the importance of community engagement in HIV cure research. 2BeatHIV hosts contests to gather community-based ideas on spreading awareness about HIV cure research. Learn how you can get involved by submitting your ideas and participating in clinical trials to help find a cure for HIV. Follow 2BeatHIV on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter @2BeatHIV for more information. Follow us on Instagram @CourtneyBrame for podcast updates.

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SPFPP Episode 195: It Does Get Better - A Little Support Goes a Long Way
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

SPFPP Episode 195: It Does Get Better - A Little Support Goes a Long Way

In Episode 195 of the SPFPP Podcast, our guest discusses her first social herpes support group event in Kentucky and how it transformed her healing journey. She opens up about navigating narcissism in her family and partners, and overcoming sexual trauma. This episode highlights the importance of support and therapy in entering healthy relationships. Tune in to hear her inspiring story of resilience and healing.

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SPFPP Episode 194: Therapy Exit Interviews 4 - Self Forgiveness
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

SPFPP Episode 194: Therapy Exit Interviews 4 - Self Forgiveness

In Episode 194 of the SPFPP Podcast, Jennifer discusses her experience in the first cohort of SPFPP therapy sessions. She opens up about self-forgiveness, rekindling a relationship with an ex, and the challenges of navigating toxicity in relationships. Jennifer's story emphasizes the non-linear journey of healing and the importance of boundaries for healthier interactions. Tune in to hear her insights on how a herpes diagnosis grounded her and led to deeper self-love and acceptance.

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SPFPP Episode 193: Dispelling Disabilities
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

SPFPP Episode 193: Dispelling Disabilities

In Episode 193 of the SPFPP Podcast, Rollon Rebel, a Black, LGBTQIA, disadvantaged, wheelchair user, and therapist, shares his journey and experiences. We discuss how his personal traumas, including childhood sexual assault, inspired him to help others. This episode provides an inside look at our therapy sessions and emphasizes the importance of therapists having their own support systems. Tune in for an insightful and heartfelt conversation.

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SPFPP Episode 192: Therapy Exit Interviews 3 - Alone But Together
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

SPFPP Episode 192: Therapy Exit Interviews 3 - Alone But Together

In Episode 192 of the SPFPP Podcast, a group therapy participant shares her journey of overcoming guilt and enduring a difficult relationship after contracting herpes from an affair. With a trigger warning for references to a negative relationship, we discuss how group therapy offered a healing space distinct from social media support groups. Tune in to learn how therapy's focus on healing helped her feel "alone but together" with others.

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SPFPP Episode 191: Equivocal Hypochondriac
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

SPFPP Episode 191: Equivocal Hypochondriac

In Episode 191 of the SPFPP Podcast, Rita discusses the challenges of navigating uncertain HSV test results. How do you disclose a condition when your test results are inconclusive? Tune in to hear Rita's experience and explore the impact of having consistent and definitive HSV testing. Discover how clear results could change the way HSV positive diagnoses are received and managed.

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SPFPP Episode 190: Identity Validation is Suicide Prevention - Stigma in Blackness
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

SPFPP Episode 190: Identity Validation is Suicide Prevention - Stigma in Blackness

In Episode 190 of the SPFPP Podcast, we delve into the intersection of overlapping identities and their impact on trauma and stigma, with a focus on the Black and LGBTQIA+ communities. Leigh, an intersex black trans woman and primary health care provider, shares her experiences since 2019, offering a unique perspective on the challenges faced by those with multiple marginalized identities. Learn how identity validation is vital for suicide prevention and mental health support.

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SPFPP Episode 189: Therapy Exit Interviews 2 - Self Sex Education
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

SPFPP Episode 189: Therapy Exit Interviews 2 - Self Sex Education

In Episode 189 of the SPFPP Podcast, Mya reflects on her journey through the first cohort of SPFPP Group Therapy. She discusses the unexpected challenges and healing processes related to an STI diagnosis and other sexual traumas. This episode includes a trigger warning for sexual assault, as Mya openly shares her path to recovery and the support she found in group therapy.

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SPFPP Episode 188: Navigating Negatives with Jordan D'Nelle
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

SPFPP Episode 188: Navigating Negatives with Jordan D'Nelle

In Episode 188, Jordan D'Nelle challenges and broadens our understanding of the relationship between healthcare providers and herpes patients. This discussion aims to bridge the experiential gap, fostering a collaborative approach to managing and understanding herpes.

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SPFPP Episode 187: Maybe it Really is Just the Herpes - The 300 of Stigma
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

SPFPP Episode 187: Maybe it Really is Just the Herpes - The 300 of Stigma

In Episode 187 of the SPFPP Podcast, we discuss the experience gap between healthcare providers and patients diagnosed with herpes. Featuring perspectives from both sides, we challenge our understanding of what's needed to support effective collaboration. Tune in for expansive insights from Jordan D'Nelle, and check out her podcast linked in the show notes.

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SPFPP Episode 186: Go F Yourself to Connect to Yourself
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

SPFPP Episode 186: Go F Yourself to Connect to Yourself

In Episode 186 of the SPFPP Podcast, 35-year-old Lauren, a bisexual polyamorous woman, discusses how she reconnected with her body and obtained self-validation through masturbation and self-exploration. We explore dating out of convenience, ethical transitions, and the implications of disclosing a partner's HSV status. Tune in for an insightful conversation and check out the 2021 data collection survey linked in the show notes or at spfpp.org/data.

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