Welcome to the SPFPP Herpes Podcast
Something Positive for Positive People Podcast: Now Live Monthly!
The Something Positive for Positive People podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the stigma associated with STDs/STIs, including herpes, HIV, and HPV. We believe in the power of open conversations, real stories, and expert insights to build a supportive community for everyone affected by these conditions.
Starting in November, the podcast is going live! Join us on the last Tuesday of every month at 8pm Eastern Time for an interactive experience where you can engage with the stories, topics, and experts that matter most to you.
What You'll Find Here
Real Stories: Hear personal experiences from individuals who’ve navigated life with an STD. Their raw, authentic journeys offer valuable lessons and inspiration.
Expert Insights: Learn from healthcare professionals, therapists, and relationship experts who share actionable advice on managing your health, relationships, and mental well-being.
Supportive Community: Connect with others who understand your experiences. Whether listening live or catching the replay, you’ll feel seen, heard, and supported.
Key Topics Covered
Dating with Herpes: Practical tips for disclosing your status and building healthy, honest relationships.
Mental Health: Strategies to cope with the emotional challenges of an STD diagnosis.
Self-Care: Insights on nurturing your physical and emotional health.
Breaking the Stigma: Empowering conversations that challenge societal norms and encourage acceptance.us for the live show on the last Tuesday of every month at
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How to Use Our Search Bar
Looking for specific topics? Use our search bar to find episodes that cover the subjects most relevant to you. Simply type in keywords like "disclosure," "self-care," "mental health," or "relationship advice" to access episodes that offer the insights and support you need.
Join Our Community
Our podcast isn't just about listening—it's about connecting. Join our community of listeners who are navigating similar experiences. Share your stories, ask questions, and find the support you need.
If you would like to be a guest on the podcast to share your dating, relationship, and experience navigating stigma, please fill out the intake form below.

SPFPP Episode 185: Resistance to Receiving - A Journey of Acceptance
In Episode 185 of the SPFPP Podcast, a fellow Yogi shares his journey from resisting to accepting his herpes diagnosis as a positive turning point. We delve into challenging the reasons behind only dating people with herpes and explore how offering the choice to others can help us embrace our full humanity. Tune in to this insightful conversation on healing and acceptance.

SPFPP Episode 184: Avoidance in Action
In Episode 184 of the SPFPP Podcast, Bek Antonucci shares insights on the interconnectedness of mental and sexual health, emphasizing how herpes stigma impacts both. We explore avoidance in action, examining its manifestations in relationships, substance use, and other behaviors. This episode focuses on breaking patterns of avoidance and embracing self-discovery and healing. Follow Bek on Instagram @bekantonucci for more.

SPFPP 183: Therapy Exit Interviews 1 - Daddy Lessons
In Episode 183 of the SPFPP Podcast, we present our first therapy exit interview featuring Ali, a 32-year-old bisexual, cis-gendered woman diagnosed with HSV-2. Ali shares her journey of exploring and addressing her anger toward her father through SPFPP therapy. Discover how therapy helped her improve her relationship with herself and others. Tune in for an inspiring and insightful conversation.

SPFPP Episode 182: The Life Cycle of Herpes Education Advocacy
In Episode 182 of the SPFPP Podcast, we delve into the life cycle of herpes education advocacy and its significance as a pathway to healing. Discover the importance of maintaining your intentions amidst external pressures and avoiding burnout. I share my personal journey and experiences in herpes education advocacy, offering insights and lessons learned along the way. Tune in for a reflective and informative episode.

SPFPP Episode 181: Disconnect the Dots of Disclosures
In Episode 181 of the SPFPP Podcast, we delve into the concept of "disconnecting the dots" of disclosure. Just as connecting the dots in a drawing helps form a clear picture, each disclosure redirects us, clarifying our journey and progress. Discover how these moments can guide us towards a better understanding of our path and destination.

SPFPP Episode 180: The Imminent Infiniteness of Disclosure
In Episode 180 of the SPFPP Podcast, Courtney Brame delves into the infinite nature of herpes disclosure and its impact on confidence. Reflect on the value you place on sexuality and STI status versus other important aspects of your humanness. Tune in for key considerations and insights on navigating the disclosure journey.

SPFPP Episode 179: Realigning with Intention
In this episode, I share my thoughts on creating a herpes-focused survey to collect data from 1,000 participants, aiming to represent our lived experiences. I also discuss the future of the SPFPP podcast and my reasons for considering its end. Tune in to join our mission and hear my vulnerable reflections.

SPFPP Episode 178: Disclosure Diss-Closure
In this episode, we dive into the challenges of disclosing a herpes diagnosis with a mix of humor and honesty. Our guest shares candid stories about the reactions she faced and explores deeper themes like vulnerability, avoidance, and the complexities of human connection. Tune in for insights on navigating disclosure and the importance of community.

SPFPP Episode 177: Reality Does Not Anchor Assumptions
In this episode, J from New Zealand shares her struggle with the medical community's resistance to herpes testing and misinformation. Through her personal journey, we explore themes of boundary-setting in relationships, the parallels between COVID-19 and STI conversations, and the impact of stigma and misinformation on sexual health. Tune in for a candid discussion on navigating medical and personal challenges with herpes.

SPFPP Episode 176: How We Don't Talk About Sex
In this revealing episode, our guest shares her journey through the complexities of HSV support group dynamics and the pervasive discomfort surrounding sex discussions. From boundary violations in support groups to the trauma of diagnosis delivery, we delve into the unspoken challenges of living with herpes. Discover the intersection of sexual health and mental health and the importance of supportive, judgment-free spaces for survivors.

SPFPP Episode 175: Shift the Shame
In this powerful episode, we explore the impact of confronting an abuser who knowingly exposed you to herpes without consent. Our guest sheds light on the pervasive shame felt by victims compared to the lack of accountability for perpetrators. By shifting this shame, can we disrupt cycles of abuse and stigma? Tune in for a candid discussion on reclaiming power and breaking free from victim-blaming narratives.

SPFPP Episode 174: Platonic Validation
In this episode, we delve into a wide range of topics centered around the experience of living with herpes. Our guest shares her journey, from being rushed into thinking about children after her diagnosis to finding solace in community support. We discuss the importance of consistent herpes testing, the value of platonic validation, and the unique mental health challenges faced by Black and Brown communities. Tune in for insights on breaking silence and finding empowerment through awareness and support.

SPFPP Episode 173: Neutralizing Toxicity - Controlling Connection
Control over a person says “prove you love me”.

SPFPP Episode 172: Freedom from Religious Restraints
At age 24, Ebony was diagnosed with genital herpes after her third relationship. Growing up in a religious household, where authority went unchallenged, she gives us a perspective on challenging beliefs with behaviors in reality. This episode dives deep into mental health in the Black home, the value of religion versus mental health, and how shame and repressed sexuality can lead to abusive behavior. We also explore healing through the herpes support groups and the importance of community in overcoming stigma.

SPFPP Episode 171: Black Minds Matter Part 2
Trigger warning for suicide in this episode of Something Positive for Positive People. We care about our SPFPP listeners' mental well-being and appreciate your continued support. In this episode, we conclude the conversation Bliss and I were having about Black mental health. We discussed her challenges with depression and suicidal ideation, highlighting how mental wellness challenges look different for people with Blackness. Our sexual health and mental health are deeply interconnected, and the stigma brings about compounded challenges in the Black community.

SPFPP Episode 171: Black Minds Matter Part 1
In Part 1 of this two-part SPFPP episode, 27-year-old Bliss, a Black woman, shares her experience being diagnosed with trichomoniasis and herpes simplex virus type 1 while in a relationship. She initially thought she only had oral herpes due to unclear language from her healthcare provider. We also touch on her mental health struggles, including battling depression and suicidal ideation.

SPFPP Episode 170: Carnal Communication - Safer Socializing
Cold Sores are herpesZoe Ligon, AKA The Dildo Duchess and author of “Carnal Knowledge, Sex Education You Didn’t Get in School,” joins SPFPP to share her surprising diagnosis of herpes, which she contracted through oral sex. We discuss the importance of boundaries, asking for what you want, and navigating STIs contracted through non-sexual contact. Zoe can be found on Instagram @thongria and @shopspectrumboutique.

SPFPP Episode 169: Intuitive Disclosing
Disclosure, disclosure, disclosure! This episode tackles the most concerning aspect of having a herpes diagnosis. Our guest, Amanda, discusses how the parallels between COVID and HSV disclosures have re-triggered many during 2020. Amanda shares her intuitive method for deciding if someone is worth disclosing your status to before taking things further physically.

SPFPP Episode 168: Comfort and Convenience Over Quality of Self
In this episode, we discuss how seeking comfort and convenience in relationships can sometimes lead us to compromise our self-worth. Our guest shares personal insights on dealing with rejection and how herpes can be a factor in relationship dynamics. We emphasize the importance of prioritizing quality connections over superficial or convenient ones, and the journey to maintain self-worth amidst the stigma of herpes.

SPFPP Episode 167: Most of Us Are Okay
In this episode, I reflect on some DMs I received and how rare rejection actually is compared to what we often think. Most people with herpes are in a good place with their diagnosis. I usually hear from those currently struggling, but it's essential to understand that navigating a herpes diagnosis doesn't always come from herpes-specific resources.