SPFPP 388: The More We Do A Thing
In this episode of Something Positive for Positive People, host Courtney Brame speaks with Rachel, a listener who found SPFPP through her therapist after being diagnosed with herpes. Together, they explore the journey of self-rejection, healing, and reclaiming confidence after diagnosis. From the emotional shock and isolation that follow to the role of therapy, community, and dating experiences, this conversation offers a grounded look at what healing from stigma actually looks like in real life.
They discuss how internalized stigma keeps people from connection, how disclosure can become an act of empowerment, and why the simple act of doing—showing up for therapy, dating again, sharing your story—is what rebuilds self-trust. As Courtney says, “The more you do a thing, the better you get at it.”
This episode offers a raw, compassionate reflection on learning to see yourself again after stigma, finding safety in community, and reclaiming your right to choice and connection.
Quotes from Episode 388: “The More You Do a Thing”
“The more you do a thing, the better you get at it.”
— Courtney on healing through practice, not perfection.“We reject ourselves before anyone else gets the chance to.”
— Courtney reflecting on internalized stigma and dating after diagnosis.“Sharing your status gives others the power of choice—and that’s how we reclaim our own power.”
— Courtney on disclosure as empowerment.“Community isn’t just people with herpes—it’s people willing to examine what this diagnosis can teach them.”
— Courtney redefining what ‘support’ really means.“I’m realizing my dating pool is bigger than I thought. My diagnosis doesn’t define the love I’m capable of.”
— Rachel on breaking through self-imposed limits and rediscovering confidence.
Keywords: herpes stigma, herpes support, sexual health, mental health, self-rejection, dating with herpes, emotional wellness, therapy, disclosure, empowerment, SPFPP, community healing, shame resilience
