SPFPP 314: Disclosing to Your Polycule

So this woman I matched with on a dating app that is not herpes focused matched with me, we lost contact, and then when we matched again she really wanted to tell me thanks for my work. She and I discussed making this into a podcast episode, and I AM SO GLAD WE DID! This was phenomenal perspective.

My experience with navigating dating multiple partners is quite unique for a variety of reasons, primarily that I'm open about my status. I touch on that in the episode.

Our guest who chose to be called Tuesday shares her experience with sharing her new diagnosis to her then fiance' now husband and the handful of partners they have together and separate.

This is an important episode for anyone navigating non monogamy of course, but any person can see how important it is to have partners who are accepting of YOU rather than expecting them to be accepting of a thing about you like herpes.

We often make herpes such a big deal that we diminish the value of who we are in our identity and THAT is what people can be attracted to, but when we do that, we deem ourselves unattractive without meaning to because our focus is on herpes, so they can only assume that's where theirs should be. Let's reframe that.

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