SPFPP 413: Saying the Thing Over Saying it Perfectly - with Lena Peak
Are you letting the pressure to say things "perfectly" stop you from experiencing the pleasure you deserve? This week on Something Positive for Positive People, Courtney Brame sits down with Lena Peak of Eros Insight, a queer-owned sexuality education resource.
Tying into the core SPFPP theme that "Safe Sex is Communicative Sex," Courtney and Lena explore how perfectionism can paralyze us from both discovering and expressing what we truly want in the bedroom. They unpack the common disconnects found in heterosexual, monogamous relationships, examining how the default "social scripts" we are handed often fail to serve all parties involved.
Drawing on valuable lessons from Queerness, Lena explains how we can expand beyond these limiting scripts to embrace authentic connection. They also discuss a powerful resource Lena created that centers self-inquiry and curiosity to help you pinpoint your exact desires and confidently bring them up to your partner(s).
Tune in to learn the essential questions you need to ask yourself to dive deeper into your own pleasure, and remember: saying the thing is always better than trying to say it perfectly.
Connect with Lena:
Instagram - @erosinsight
For the workbook we talked about in the episode -
https://erosinsight.com/store/holistic-sexual-wellness
Lena Peak, MSW, CSE (she/they) is an AASECT-certified sexuality educator and founder of Eros Insight, where she explores sexuality, gender, identity, and relationships through a justice-centered lens. Her work empowers people and organizations to question inherited narratives and imagine more authentic, expansive ways of being.Lena designs supportive educational experiences that inspire meaningful community, intellectual risk-taking, and radical dreaming. Their work centers erotic knowledge as a source of personal and collective power, inviting people to recognize and reclaim their capacity for aliveness, connection, and pleasure.Lena holds a Master of Social Work degree with a concentration in Sexual Health & Education from Washington University in St. Louis.
