Welcome to the SPFPP Herpes Podcast
Season 1: Herpes Stigma, Disclosure, and Emotional Support
Welcome to Season 1 of the Something Positive for Positive People (SPFPP) podcast. This season began with one mission: to support people navigating life after a herpes diagnosis through real, stigma-free conversations.
Whether you’re newly diagnosed or years into your journey, this archive exists to remind you—you’re not alone, and your story matters.
What You’ll Hear in Season 1:
Personal Stories: Guests share their experiences navigating herpes, dating, disclosure, and identity.
Herpes Disclosure Tips: Learn how to talk about your status with confidence and compassion.
Mental Health & Self-Worth: Explore how a diagnosis impacts your emotional health—and how to rebuild it.
Stigma-Free Language: Hear conversations that model compassionate, affirming ways to talk about STIs.
Expert Insights: Professionals in sexual health and mental health join the conversation to provide context and support.
Topics Covered:
First outbreak and diagnosis stories
Navigating relationships and dating with herpes
Finding identity beyond the stigma
Supporting others with STIs
Yoga therapy, emotional wellness, and herpes
Building community and breaking isolation
This season reflects years of lived experience, listener conversations, and lessons gathered from hundreds of interviews and peer support calls. The goal: to reduce the emotional weight of stigma, one conversation at a time.
Why This Archive Still Matters
While SPFPP is now expanding into broader conversations about emotional wellness and minimizing all forms of stigma, Season 1 will always be the foundation. These stories continue to support thousands of people every year seeking reassurance, healing, and connection.
If you’re here for herpes-specific support, you’re in the right place.
Want more tools and support?
Explore our Herpes Support Call and Yoga Therapy pages for more resources to help you navigate stigma and emotional wellness.
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Episode 111 Part 2: Live From STD Engage - Suggestive Language Serves Us All
In SPFPP Episode 111 Part 2, Public Health Nurse Tessa shares her insights on using suggestive language to effectively serve challenging communities like sex workers and inmates. Through her experiences, Tessa reveals how carefully chosen language can help overcome resistances to testing and treatment, fostering better health outcomes for these vulnerable populations.

Episode 111 Part 1: Live From STD Engage - Perceptions of Stigma with NCSD's Amanda Dennison
In SPFPP Episode 111, we hear from NCSD's Amanda Dennison on the perceptions of stigma in public health. Amanda shares her insights from STD Engage 2019, discussing how stigma affects health outcomes and the importance of strategic communication in overcoming these challenges.

Episode 110: To Reveal is to Heal
In "Psychocybernetics", Dr. Maxwell Maltz tells of a traveler burdened by a boulder, unaware until a child points it out. Similarly, our guest Thomas began his healing journey after revealing his genital herpes diagnosis, which saved his life. Tune in to episode 110 of Something Positive for Positive People.

Episode 109: Big Confidence with Carolyn Toney
Carolyn Toney, creator of "Tales of Toney," shares her journey of openly living with herpes, being polyamorous, and bisexual. She discusses evolving her disclosure process, embracing radical self-acceptance, and the importance of healing and support systems. Her confidence, or "big C energy," is inspiring, showing the power of focusing on positivity and self-growth.

Episode 108: There's No Blame
In this episode, Courtney Brame reflects on his journey with genital HSV-2, emphasizing the importance of moving past blame and choosing to heal. He shares his struggle of not having someone to blame, which forced him to confront his feelings and behaviors related to his diagnosis. This week's guest similarly chose to accept the lesson from their diagnosis without attaching blame, demonstrating the power of forgiveness and personal growth.

Episode 107: Dating Advice from a Divorced Marriage Therapist
Exploring the concept of outsourcing your needs to multiple relationships, this episode features a conversation with a divorced marriage therapist. We discuss the importance of recognizing various types of connections and how fulfilling different needs through multiple relationships can lead to a more balanced and satisfying life.

Episode 106: The Herpes Cure - a $2k Lesson on Healing
In this episode, we explore the vulnerability and desperation following a herpes diagnosis and the predatory scams promising a cure. Our guest, Lindsay, shares her $2,000 lesson on healing and the red flags of false cures. We discuss the importance of empowering oneself with accurate information and the potential future of demanding a cure or vaccine for herpes.

Episode 105: Force Your Presence
In this episode, Staci Bratten shares her journey as a trans-woman, highlighting the power of self-expression and identity in preventing suicide. After hiding her true self for years, a therapist's words led to her liberation. Her story emphasizes the importance of acknowledging one's identity and its impact on mental health and confidence.

Episode 104: Relationships Extend Beyond the Body
Our guest shares the impact of her first negative disclosure experience and how it shaped her future interactions. After her HSV-2 diagnosis, she confided in a friend who advised her to keep it a secret. This advice conflicted with her true self, leading to a journey of acceptance and honest communication about her status. We discuss how initial reactions to disclosures can profoundly affect our approach to relationships and self-worth.

Episode 103: Leave People Better Than You Found Them
In SPFPP Episode 103, we explore the challenges of dating with herpes. Our guest shares her reasons for only dating others with herpes, highlighting that rejection, ghosting, and other dating hurdles still exist regardless of STI status. The conversation emphasizes understanding intentions behind dating choices and prioritizing being truly seen in relationships over merely being accepted.

Episode 102: The Shadow Side of Advocacy
In SPFPP Episode 102, we discuss the often overlooked challenges of herpes advocacy. Sharing personal stories can be empowering but also carries risks. This episode offers crucial insights for those inspired to disclose their herpes status publicly, helping them make informed decisions and navigate the complexities of advocacy.

Episode 101: Tracing Behaviors Back to Beliefs
In SPFPP Episode 101, we explore how a herpes diagnosis can trigger a deeper identity crisis. Often, the stigma and physical discomfort overshadow the root issue—our beliefs about ourselves. We discuss strategies to reconnect with your true identity and build self-worth beyond your diagnosis.

Episode 00: Welcome to Something Positive for Positive People
Welcome to Something Positive for Positive People, hosted by Courtney Brame. This inclusive podcast provides a hub of sex-positive resources, featuring stories from people living with STDs such as herpes, HIV, and HPV. By sharing experiences, it aims to help listeners navigate the dating world, deal with stigma, and understand that life continues after a diagnosis. The podcast also addresses social issues like sex education, race, reproductive rights, and mental health. As a 501c3 nonprofit, donations help expand its reach and support those affected by STIs.

Episode 100: Don't Dim Your Light Because Others Don't Wear Sunglasses
In SPFPP Episode 100, we celebrate a milestone with a discussion on maintaining confidence and creating safe spaces for sexually charged conversations. Our guest shares her experience with a recent genital HSV-1 diagnosis and the importance of respecting boundaries in growing communities. Tune in for listener Q&A and reflections on the journey so far.

Episode 99: Integrative Disclosure
Navigating relationships isn't just about heading towards marriage; it's about how we relate to others. In episode 99 of SPFPP, Dr. Evelin Dacker introduces the STARS method—a conscious, intentional formula to guide important conversations around sexual health, turn-ons, boundaries, relationship intentions, and safety. This tool helps people living with herpes facilitate integrative disclosures, ensuring compatibility and communication before revealing their STI status. Download and listen now for practical advice on building healthier connections.

Episode 98: Honest Sex Ed - Protection From Deception
Episode 98 of SPFPP addresses the vital need for honest sex education, particularly within oppressed communities. Our guest, a sex educator, discusses the systemic challenges and racial dynamics that hinder effective sexual education. Through recent episodes, we've highlighted the distinct experiences of black individuals facing sexual health issues, emphasizing the necessity for comprehensive, truthful education to protect youth from deception and empower them with knowledge.

Episode 97: Normalized Dysfunction
In this powerful episode, we hear from a 25-year-old black woman who has been living with genital herpes for over 10 years. She shares her harrowing experiences of sexual abuse and the normalization of dysfunctional behaviors in her community, emphasizing the critical need for open conversations about sexual health and the elimination of secrecy to prevent abuse and support healing.

Episode 96: We Just Don't Know
In SPFPP Episode 96, Courtney Brame speaks with Dr. Lexx Brown-James about the unique challenges Black individuals face regarding herpes stigma. They delve into the history of STIs, the over-sexualization of Black bodies, and the importance of representation and trust in the healing process. This episode highlights the necessity for specialized resources to support the Black community in navigating a positive herpes diagnosis.

Episode 95: We Need to Hold Ourselves Accountable
In Episode 95 of SPFPP, we delve into the pervasive issue of stigma perpetuated by healthcare professionals, focusing on a recent incident with @codebluememes. This episode highlights the damaging effects of such judgment on patients with herpes and mental health issues, emphasizing the need for empathetic and stigma-free healthcare environments.

Episode 94: Thought Beyond the Binary
Episode 94 of SPFPP dives into the concept of queerness defined as "Thought Beyond the Binary." Host Courtney Brame and guest Liza discuss the importance of pronoun recognition, the evolution of attraction and dating, and how queer perspectives challenge traditional binary thinking. This episode sheds light on how embracing non-conformity can lead to an abundance mindset in various life aspects.