Welcome to the SPFPP

Stigma Minimization Podcast

Storytelling, Stigma Healing, and Presence Practice

Since 2017, Something Positive for Positive People has used storytelling to help people feel less alone in the emotional weight of stigma. What began as a herpes support podcast is now a space where anyone navigating identity-based stigma—around mental health, sexuality, race, relationships, or simply being human—can come to feel seen.

If you’ve ever felt disqualified from connection because of how the world responds to who you are, this podcast is for you.

We don’t give quick fixes. We hold space. Every episode is a reminder that your existence is not a problem to solve—but a presence to be witnessed.

What You’ll Hear:

  • Real Stories: People share what it’s like to live, date, and love while navigating stigma.

  • Identity and Presence: We explore how presence helps people reclaim their identity beyond what the world expects.

  • Practical Tools: Guidance for disclosure, emotional regulation, and navigating relationships in ways that honor your truth.

  • Guest Conversations: We bring in experts and everyday people to talk about healing through herpes, heartbreak, queerness, shame, spirituality, sex, masculinity, and more.

  • Yoga-Informed Insights: Reflections on how the koshas (layers of being), nervous system regulation, and atomic alignment show up in the healing process.

Why This Podcast Still Supports People with Herpes

Herpes might’ve been what brought you here—but stigma probably isn’t new to you. Whether it’s been around your sexuality, mental health, masculinity, queerness, race, or just feeling like you don’t fit, stigma tends to stack.

This podcast still holds space for people navigating herpes. We’ve got hundreds of episodes about disclosure, dating, and identity. But over time, it became clear—herpes stigma is often the doorway to deeper healing.

If you’re here for herpes support, you’re in the right place. And if you’re starting to realize there’s more beneath the surface, you’re still in the right place.

We’re here to help you live with stigma—but not be defined by it.

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Looking for something specific? Use keywords like “herpes disclosure,” “dating,” “mental health,” or “nonmonogamy” to pull up relevant episodes.

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Explore our Herpes Support Call and Stigma Support Call offerings, or check out our Yoga Therapy offerings for more presence-based care.

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Episode 120: The Emotions Vampire
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

Episode 120: The Emotions Vampire

In this episode, I reflect on the profound insights gained from Michelle Cassandra Johnson's workshop and her book, "Skill in Action." A meditation on the question "Where am I from?" transported me back to my childhood, revealing how past experiences shape our present emotions. This journey underscores the importance of centering and connecting with oneself, as emphasized in my yoga teacher training.

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Episode 119: The SPFPP Gray Rule
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

Episode 119: The SPFPP Gray Rule

Reflecting on personal experiences and yoga teachings, I introduce the SPFPP Gray Rule: "Others can only treat you (at best) the way they treat themselves." This episode delves into how expectations often lead to disappointment, stemming from personal narratives and relationships. Tune in to explore how shifting our mindset can change our interactions and manage disappointments.

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SPFPP Episode 118: Self-Health Care
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

SPFPP Episode 118: Self-Health Care

In this episode, we feature the hosts of the Inner Hoe Uprising Podcast, who share their powerful sexual healthcare experiences. At the STD Engage conference, they discussed issues such as provider discomfort, bias, and lack of proper STI testing protocol. These stories highlight the urgent need for sex-positive, empathetic, and queer-friendly healthcare providers.

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SPFPP 117: Trace Your Trigger
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

SPFPP 117: Trace Your Trigger

In this episode, we discuss tracing the emotional triggers linked to your herpes diagnosis. By identifying and exploring the first and most recent occurrences of these emotions, you can uncover consistent patterns and better understand your reactions. This self-awareness can help in managing your feelings more effectively.

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Episode 116: The Spiritual Significance of Herpes
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

Episode 116: The Spiritual Significance of Herpes

In SPFPP Episode 116, "The Spiritual Significance of Herpes," we explore the emotional and spiritual aspects of living with herpes. This episode delves into themes like personal growth, the mind-body connection, and transforming stigma into resilience. Learn how Yoga Therapy can support emotional healing and discover resources to navigate herpes stigma with strength and self-acceptance.

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Episode 115: Getting Real About Mental Wellness
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

Episode 115: Getting Real About Mental Wellness

In SPFPP Episode 115, Priscilla María, a mental health writer and speaker, joins us to discuss the nuances of mental wellness intersecting with race and sexuality. Known for her work on platforms like TheMighty and Blavity, Priscilla shares insights on recognizing mental health struggles and the importance of advocacy. Learn more at www.priscillamaria.com.

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Episode 114: Slutty Solutions
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

Episode 114: Slutty Solutions

In SPFPP Episode 114, Lorrae Jo, Founder of Slutty Girl Problems, joins us to discuss reclaiming the term "slut" and empowering women. We cover topics such as the We Need a Button Campaign, the importance of shame-free care, dick pics, slut-shamers, sex party etiquette, and changing the narrative around sluttiness. Enjoy this episode with the vibrant Lorrae Jo.

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Episode 113: The Radical Audacity to be Yourself
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

Episode 113: The Radical Audacity to be Yourself

In SPFPP Episode 113, David Wraith joins us to discuss the radical audacity to be oneself. As a cis-gendered heterosexual black man in the sex-positive space, David's presence and insights provide invaluable lessons on living authentically despite societal expectations. We explore themes of freedom, identity, and the challenges of embracing one's true self.

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Episode 112: Sex Positive Shameless Grounds Live Heeps Hangout - A Taste of Community
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

Episode 112: Sex Positive Shameless Grounds Live Heeps Hangout - A Taste of Community

In SPFPP Episode 112, we explore the deep connection between stigma and shame. Recorded live at Shameless Grounds, a sex-positive, judgment-free space, participants share their experiences with herpes, dating, and disclosure. This episode highlights the importance of creating safe spaces where people can confront and overcome shame, fostering community and self-acceptance.

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Episode 111 Part 2: Live From STD Engage - Suggestive Language Serves Us All
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

Episode 111 Part 2: Live From STD Engage - Suggestive Language Serves Us All

In SPFPP Episode 111 Part 2, Public Health Nurse Tessa shares her insights on using suggestive language to effectively serve challenging communities like sex workers and inmates. Through her experiences, Tessa reveals how carefully chosen language can help overcome resistances to testing and treatment, fostering better health outcomes for these vulnerable populations.

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Episode 110: To Reveal is to Heal
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

Episode 110: To Reveal is to Heal

In "Psychocybernetics", Dr. Maxwell Maltz tells of a traveler burdened by a boulder, unaware until a child points it out. Similarly, our guest Thomas began his healing journey after revealing his genital herpes diagnosis, which saved his life. Tune in to episode 110 of Something Positive for Positive People.

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Episode 109: Big Confidence with Carolyn Toney
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

Episode 109: Big Confidence with Carolyn Toney

Carolyn Toney, creator of "Tales of Toney," shares her journey of openly living with herpes, being polyamorous, and bisexual. She discusses evolving her disclosure process, embracing radical self-acceptance, and the importance of healing and support systems. Her confidence, or "big C energy," is inspiring, showing the power of focusing on positivity and self-growth.

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Episode 108: There's No Blame
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

Episode 108: There's No Blame

In this episode, Courtney Brame reflects on his journey with genital HSV-2, emphasizing the importance of moving past blame and choosing to heal. He shares his struggle of not having someone to blame, which forced him to confront his feelings and behaviors related to his diagnosis. This week's guest similarly chose to accept the lesson from their diagnosis without attaching blame, demonstrating the power of forgiveness and personal growth.

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Episode 107: Dating Advice from a Divorced Marriage Therapist
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

Episode 107: Dating Advice from a Divorced Marriage Therapist

Exploring the concept of outsourcing your needs to multiple relationships, this episode features a conversation with a divorced marriage therapist. We discuss the importance of recognizing various types of connections and how fulfilling different needs through multiple relationships can lead to a more balanced and satisfying life.

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Episode 106: The Herpes Cure - a $2k Lesson on Healing
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

Episode 106: The Herpes Cure - a $2k Lesson on Healing

In this episode, we explore the vulnerability and desperation following a herpes diagnosis and the predatory scams promising a cure. Our guest, Lindsay, shares her $2,000 lesson on healing and the red flags of false cures. We discuss the importance of empowering oneself with accurate information and the potential future of demanding a cure or vaccine for herpes.

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Episode 105: Force Your Presence
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

Episode 105: Force Your Presence

In this episode, Staci Bratten shares her journey as a trans-woman, highlighting the power of self-expression and identity in preventing suicide. After hiding her true self for years, a therapist's words led to her liberation. Her story emphasizes the importance of acknowledging one's identity and its impact on mental health and confidence.

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Episode 104: Relationships Extend Beyond the Body
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

Episode 104: Relationships Extend Beyond the Body

Our guest shares the impact of her first negative disclosure experience and how it shaped her future interactions. After her HSV-2 diagnosis, she confided in a friend who advised her to keep it a secret. This advice conflicted with her true self, leading to a journey of acceptance and honest communication about her status. We discuss how initial reactions to disclosures can profoundly affect our approach to relationships and self-worth.

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Episode 103: Leave People Better Than You Found Them
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

Episode 103: Leave People Better Than You Found Them

In SPFPP Episode 103, we explore the challenges of dating with herpes. Our guest shares her reasons for only dating others with herpes, highlighting that rejection, ghosting, and other dating hurdles still exist regardless of STI status. The conversation emphasizes understanding intentions behind dating choices and prioritizing being truly seen in relationships over merely being accepted.

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Episode 102: The Shadow Side of Advocacy
Courtney Brame Courtney Brame

Episode 102: The Shadow Side of Advocacy

In SPFPP Episode 102, we discuss the often overlooked challenges of herpes advocacy. Sharing personal stories can be empowering but also carries risks. This episode offers crucial insights for those inspired to disclose their herpes status publicly, helping them make informed decisions and navigate the complexities of advocacy.

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