SPFPP 377: Shades of Nonmonogamy
Guest: Melissa LeSane, creator of Shades of Non-Monogamy
In this intimate conversation, Melissa LeSane opens up about the messiness of living through transition—stepping away from her role as a therapist, navigating a marriage of over two decades, entering a new relationship, and rediscovering herself as a sensitive, spiritual being.
What begins as a discussion on non-monogamy turns into a reflection on how presence—not perfection—is the path back to wholeness. Melissa and Courtney explore the weight of expectations, emotional overstimulation, and the courage to allow identity to shift in real time.
Quotes:
“I didn’t want to work. And saying that out loud was the scariest part.”
“I’ve never had this much space to choose myself and not know what comes next—and that’s the most peaceful I’ve ever felt.”
“Non-monogamy began as sexual exploration, but emotional connection was the thing that rocked me.”
“I’m learning how to be a wife, a mother, and a girlfriend—and not let any one of those roles erase the others.”
“Presence isn’t performance. It’s the pause after the burnout.”
Follow Melissa: @shades_of_non_monogamy
