Welcome to the SPFPP Herpes Podcast

Season 1: Herpes Stigma, Disclosure, and Emotional Support

Welcome to Season 1 of the Something Positive for Positive People (SPFPP) podcast. This season began with one mission: to support people navigating life after a herpes diagnosis through real, stigma-free conversations.

Whether you’re newly diagnosed or years into your journey, this archive exists to remind you—you’re not alone, and your story matters.

What You’ll Hear in Season 1:

  • Personal Stories: Guests share their experiences navigating herpes, dating, disclosure, and identity.

  • Herpes Disclosure Tips: Learn how to talk about your status with confidence and compassion.

  • Mental Health & Self-Worth: Explore how a diagnosis impacts your emotional health—and how to rebuild it.

  • Stigma-Free Language: Hear conversations that model compassionate, affirming ways to talk about STIs.

  • Expert Insights: Professionals in sexual health and mental health join the conversation to provide context and support.

Topics Covered:

  • First outbreak and diagnosis stories

  • Navigating relationships and dating with herpes

  • Finding identity beyond the stigma

  • Supporting others with STIs

  • Yoga therapy, emotional wellness, and herpes

  • Building community and breaking isolation

This season reflects years of lived experience, listener conversations, and lessons gathered from hundreds of interviews and peer support calls. The goal: to reduce the emotional weight of stigma, one conversation at a time.

Why This Archive Still Matters

While SPFPP is now expanding into broader conversations about emotional wellness and minimizing all forms of stigma, Season 1 will always be the foundation. These stories continue to support thousands of people every year seeking reassurance, healing, and connection.

If you’re here for herpes-specific support, you’re in the right place.

Want more tools and support?
Explore our Herpes Support Call and
Yoga Therapy pages for more resources to help you navigate stigma and emotional wellness.


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Looking for specific topics? Use our search bar to find episodes that cover the subjects most relevant to you. Simply type in keywords like "disclosure," "self-care," "mental health," or "relationship advice" to access episodes that offer the insights and support you need.

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SPFPP Episode 190: Identity Validation is Suicide Prevention - Stigma in Blackness

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SPFPP Episode 189: Therapy Exit Interviews 2 - Self Sex Education

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SPFPP Episode 188: Navigating Negatives with Jordan D'Nelle

In Episode 188, Jordan D'Nelle challenges and broadens our understanding of the relationship between healthcare providers and herpes patients. This discussion aims to bridge the experiential gap, fostering a collaborative approach to managing and understanding herpes.

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SPFPP Episode 187: Maybe it Really is Just the Herpes - The 300 of Stigma

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SPFPP Episode 185:  Resistance to Receiving - A Journey of Acceptance
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SPFPP Episode 185: Resistance to Receiving - A Journey of Acceptance

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SPFPP Episode 184: Avoidance in Action
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SPFPP Episode 184: Avoidance in Action

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SPFPP 183: Therapy Exit Interviews 1 - Daddy Lessons
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SPFPP 183: Therapy Exit Interviews 1 - Daddy Lessons

In Episode 183 of the SPFPP Podcast, we present our first therapy exit interview featuring Ali, a 32-year-old bisexual, cis-gendered woman diagnosed with HSV-2. Ali shares her journey of exploring and addressing her anger toward her father through SPFPP therapy. Discover how therapy helped her improve her relationship with herself and others. Tune in for an inspiring and insightful conversation.

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SPFPP Episode 182: The Life Cycle of Herpes Education Advocacy
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SPFPP Episode 182: The Life Cycle of Herpes Education Advocacy

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SPFPP Episode 181: Disconnect the Dots of Disclosures
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SPFPP Episode 181: Disconnect the Dots of Disclosures

In Episode 181 of the SPFPP Podcast, we delve into the concept of "disconnecting the dots" of disclosure. Just as connecting the dots in a drawing helps form a clear picture, each disclosure redirects us, clarifying our journey and progress. Discover how these moments can guide us towards a better understanding of our path and destination.

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SPFPP Episode 180: The Imminent Infiniteness of Disclosure
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SPFPP Episode 180: The Imminent Infiniteness of Disclosure

In Episode 180 of the SPFPP Podcast, Courtney Brame delves into the infinite nature of herpes disclosure and its impact on confidence. Reflect on the value you place on sexuality and STI status versus other important aspects of your humanness. Tune in for key considerations and insights on navigating the disclosure journey.

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SPFPP Episode 179: Realigning with Intention
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SPFPP Episode 179: Realigning with Intention

In this episode, I share my thoughts on creating a herpes-focused survey to collect data from 1,000 participants, aiming to represent our lived experiences. I also discuss the future of the SPFPP podcast and my reasons for considering its end. Tune in to join our mission and hear my vulnerable reflections.

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SPFPP Episode 178: Disclosure Diss-Closure
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SPFPP Episode 178: Disclosure Diss-Closure

In this episode, we dive into the challenges of disclosing a herpes diagnosis with a mix of humor and honesty. Our guest shares candid stories about the reactions she faced and explores deeper themes like vulnerability, avoidance, and the complexities of human connection. Tune in for insights on navigating disclosure and the importance of community.

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SPFPP Episode 177: Reality Does Not Anchor Assumptions
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SPFPP Episode 177: Reality Does Not Anchor Assumptions

In this episode, J from New Zealand shares her struggle with the medical community's resistance to herpes testing and misinformation. Through her personal journey, we explore themes of boundary-setting in relationships, the parallels between COVID-19 and STI conversations, and the impact of stigma and misinformation on sexual health. Tune in for a candid discussion on navigating medical and personal challenges with herpes.

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SPFPP Episode 176: How We Don't Talk About Sex
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SPFPP Episode 176: How We Don't Talk About Sex

In this revealing episode, our guest shares her journey through the complexities of HSV support group dynamics and the pervasive discomfort surrounding sex discussions. From boundary violations in support groups to the trauma of diagnosis delivery, we delve into the unspoken challenges of living with herpes. Discover the intersection of sexual health and mental health and the importance of supportive, judgment-free spaces for survivors.

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SPFPP Episode 175: Shift the Shame
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SPFPP Episode 175: Shift the Shame

In this powerful episode, we explore the impact of confronting an abuser who knowingly exposed you to herpes without consent. Our guest sheds light on the pervasive shame felt by victims compared to the lack of accountability for perpetrators. By shifting this shame, can we disrupt cycles of abuse and stigma? Tune in for a candid discussion on reclaiming power and breaking free from victim-blaming narratives.

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SPFPP Episode 174: Platonic Validation
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SPFPP Episode 174: Platonic Validation

In this episode, we delve into a wide range of topics centered around the experience of living with herpes. Our guest shares her journey, from being rushed into thinking about children after her diagnosis to finding solace in community support. We discuss the importance of consistent herpes testing, the value of platonic validation, and the unique mental health challenges faced by Black and Brown communities. Tune in for insights on breaking silence and finding empowerment through awareness and support.

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SPFPP Episode 172: Freedom from Religious Restraints

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