Welcome to our Podcast
SOMETHING POSITIVE FOR POSITIVE PEOPLE
Since 2017, the SPFPP podcast has been a free resource for people navigating the emotional, relational, and social impacts of a herpes diagnosis. Through candid conversations, guests share what life looks like after testing positive—how they date, disclose, manage shame, and build relationships. You’ll hear experiences from others that reflect your own or reveal new options for moving forward.
What we talk about
Dating with Herpes
From casual sex to long-term commitment, guests share how they communicate their status and build relationships that work for them.Stigma & Identity
How people reclaim their sense of self after diagnosis and rebuild confidence on their own terms.Sexual Health
Tools for navigating safer sex, honest communication, and deeper relational alignment.Alternative Relationship Styles
Non-monogamy, queerness, and connecting beyond traditional relationship norms.Emotional Healing
Stories of grief, growth, and self-acceptance. Often, herpes is the distraction—not the root. These episodes explore the deeper patterns that diagnosis reveals.
If you’re ready to share your experience (anonymously or publicly), please fill out the podcast guest intake form below, and we’ll reach out to interview you!
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I began consuming your podcast like it was water after walking through the desert for days. I was practically catatonic from the blow of my diagnosis, and I didn't know where to turn. I was in those initial stages of grief—somewhere between shock, denial, and anger. I won't say I was suicidal, but I did have the thought that if I died, it wouldn't really matter because my life was practically over anyway. Some months later, I learned about your SPFPP Herpes Stigma Conference in May 2024 and registered for it. I can now say I've survived one of the most difficult periods of my life—and now I'm thriving.
—J.
SPFPP 360: Something Positive for People In a Relationship or Seeking One
In SPFPP 360, we shift focus from dating with herpes to thriving in relationships. Explore personal growth, shifting priorities, and the evolution of the podcast as Courtney shares his journey and invites your feedback.
SPFPP 358: The Power of Disclosing to a Friend
Talking about your status with someone close is powerful—sharing this vulnerability can bring a deep sense of relief and connection. In SPFPP 358, we explore how trusted friends can help validate who we are, beyond our diagnosis.
SPFPP 353: Something Pleasure Positive for Vanilla People
Sol opens up about how growing up in a religious household and navigating herpes stigma led her to vanilla, one-sided sex experiences. This episode uncovers how stepping into the sex-positive community transformed her relationship with consent and pleasure, and how these lessons are relevant for anyone curious about exploring new ways to connect sexually.
SPFPP 342: Herpes identity crisis
As a Black man living with herpes, Courtney Brame has navigated the complexities of stigma, dating, and self-acceptance. Through his nonprofit, Something Positive for Positive People, he’s created a platform to support others facing similar challenges. Dive into his story and learn how he’s using his voice to fight herpes stigma and promote mental health awareness.
Episode 120: The Emotions Vampire
In this episode, I reflect on the profound insights gained from Michelle Cassandra Johnson's workshop and her book, "Skill in Action." A meditation on the question "Where am I from?" transported me back to my childhood, revealing how past experiences shape our present emotions. This journey underscores the importance of centering and connecting with oneself, as emphasized in my yoga teacher training.