In this episode, I share my thoughts on creating a herpes-focused survey to collect data from 1,000 participants, aiming to represent our lived experiences. I also discuss the future of the SPFPP podcast and my reasons for considering its end. Tune in to join our mission and hear my vulnerable reflections.

In this episode, we dive into the challenges of disclosing a herpes diagnosis with a mix of humor and honesty. Our guest shares candid stories about the reactions she faced and explores deeper themes like vulnerability, avoidance, and the complexities of human connection. Tune in for insights on navigating disclosure and the importance of community.

In this revealing episode, our guest shares her journey through the complexities of HSV support group dynamics and the pervasive discomfort surrounding sex discussions. From boundary violations in support groups to the trauma of diagnosis delivery, we delve into the unspoken challenges of living with herpes. Discover the intersection of sexual health and mental health and the importance of supportive, judgment-free spaces for survivors.

In this powerful episode, we explore the impact of confronting an abuser who knowingly exposed you to herpes without consent. Our guest sheds light on the pervasive shame felt by victims compared to the lack of accountability for perpetrators. By shifting this shame, can we disrupt cycles of abuse and stigma? Tune in for a candid discussion on reclaiming power and breaking free from victim-blaming narratives.

In this episode, we delve into a wide range of topics centered around the experience of living with herpes. Our guest shares her journey, from being rushed into thinking about children after her diagnosis to finding solace in community support. We discuss the importance of consistent herpes testing, the value of platonic validation, and the unique mental health challenges faced by Black and Brown communities. Tune in for insights on breaking silence and finding empowerment through awareness and support.

Control over a person says “prove you love me”.

At age 24, Ebony was diagnosed with genital herpes after her third relationship. Growing up in a religious household, where authority went unchallenged, she gives us a perspective on challenging beliefs with behaviors in reality. This episode dives deep into mental health in the Black home, the value of religion versus mental health, and how shame and repressed sexuality can lead to abusive behavior. We also explore healing through the herpes support groups and the importance of community in overcoming stigma.

Trigger warning for suicide in this episode of Something Positive for Positive People. We care about our SPFPP listeners' mental well-being and appreciate your continued support. In this episode, we conclude the conversation Bliss and I were having about Black mental health. We discussed her challenges with depression and suicidal ideation, highlighting how mental wellness challenges look different for people with Blackness. Our sexual health and mental health are deeply interconnected, and the stigma brings about compounded challenges in the Black community.

Cold Sores are herpesZoe Ligon, AKA The Dildo Duchess and author of “Carnal Knowledge, Sex Education You Didn’t Get in School,” joins SPFPP to share her surprising diagnosis of herpes, which she contracted through oral sex. We discuss the importance of boundaries, asking for what you want, and navigating STIs contracted through non-sexual contact. Zoe can be found on Instagram @thongria and @shopspectrumboutique.

Disclosure, disclosure, disclosure! This episode tackles the most concerning aspect of having a herpes diagnosis. Our guest, Amanda, discusses how the parallels between COVID and HSV disclosures have re-triggered many during 2020. Amanda shares her intuitive method for deciding if someone is worth disclosing your status to before taking things further physically.

In this episode, we discuss how seeking comfort and convenience in relationships can sometimes lead us to compromise our self-worth. Our guest shares personal insights on dealing with rejection and how herpes can be a factor in relationship dynamics. We emphasize the importance of prioritizing quality connections over superficial or convenient ones, and the journey to maintain self-worth amidst the stigma of herpes.

In this episode, I reflect on some DMs I received and how rare rejection actually is compared to what we often think. Most people with herpes are in a good place with their diagnosis. I usually hear from those currently struggling, but it's essential to understand that navigating a herpes diagnosis doesn't always come from herpes-specific resources.

Several social media pages offer support to people diagnosed with herpes, providing tips on disclosure, confidence through self-acceptance, and examples of living a fulfilling life post-diagnosis. This journey often begins with a quest for education—understanding what went wrong and realizing our sex education failed us. Jess shares how the best resources come from the herpes community, while the worst often come from healthcare providers. We discuss the prevalence of stigma, the failure of sex education, and the importance of therapy. Plus, we answer live questions from IG followers.

In this solo episode, I share a profound healing experience sparked in therapy, addressing unconscious behaviors I hadn't previously considered. I introduce the new "Something Positive FROM Positive People" blog, featuring community insights that can benefit everyone. I also discuss recent boundary challenges I've faced and how I'm handling them. Despite thinking I only had 30 minutes to share, I ended up talking for an hour—proof that you all enjoy these solo episodes! I'll be recording more solo episodes whenever I have schedule cancellations. Let me know your thoughts!

In this episode, we delve into how abuse manifests in various forms, from physical to emotional and mental. Reflecting on the increased awareness of abuse, we recognize how herpes can be weaponized by abusers to control their partners. We explore how the lack of comprehensive sex education contributes to the perpetuation of abuse by neglecting mental health fundamentals such as consent, body autonomy, and boundary setting.

Introducing "The Connection 4mula," a framework to identify potential abusers through four key relationship boundaries: transparency, consistency, maturity, and reciprocity. These pillars help filter out abusive patterns and ensure genuine connections based on mutual respect and love.

Comedian Hanna Dickinson joins us to discuss her experience with genital herpes and how she navigates the stigma through humor. She shares candid insights on rejection, both personal and professional, and how it has shaped her approach to comedy. This episode dives into the delicate balance of using herpes in comedy and the impact of humor on destigmatizing the virus. Hanna’s authentic storytelling offers a refreshing perspective on managing herpes with resilience and laughter.

The title speaks for itself. After many interactions with people living with HSV and attending in-person social groups, it's evident that there's a significant willingness to heal within the community. The major difference lies in the risk-reward tolerance between those who confide in someone already open about their status and those who immerse themselves in the community for support. This episode highlights the profound connections made over shared experiences, challenging the CDC's stance on herpes testing.

Dee was diagnosed with herpes 5 years ago, two weeks after her then-boyfriend, now husband, had his first symptoms. We don't often hear stories about couples navigating their relationship after a positive herpes diagnosis in a committed relationship. This untold story is unique but not uncommon. Many people's initial struggles with their diagnosis revolve around finding a partner. However, this story is different as the relationship was established before the diagnosis.